Men can only hold on for one minute, very anxious? Don't be discouraged, 3 ways may help you

After three years of marriage , the relationship between Mr. Liu and his wife has been getting worse and worse. As for the reason, he is hard to say. It turned out that the number of times he had sex with his wife was no more than 10 times, not because he was not interested in married life, but each time his duration was very short, and over time he lost confidence.

Mr. Liu didn't know what was going on with him either, because their husband and wife often quarreled about this matter. The two had been married for several years without having any children, and their married life was a piece of shit.

1. Unable to persist, these reasons are the "culprits"

"Unable to persist" is a hidden truth for many men, and the main culprit is male dysfunction. The most common male dysfunctions are erectile dysfunction ( ED ) and premature ejaculation ( PE ). Studies have found that many physical or psychological diseases are high - risk factors for ED and PE .

Among them, the risk factors for ED include hypothyroidism, hyperthyroidism, diabetes, hypertension, dyslipidemia, depression, etc. Risk factors for PE include depression, metabolic syndrome, chronic prostatitis, and thyroid dysfunction.

In addition, male dysfunction is also closely related to daily behavior habits, especially the following three bad habits.

1. Smoking and drinking

Studies have found that excessive consumption of alcohol can inhibit the central nervous system and sexual nerves, affect the transmission of impulses, cause ED or PE , and reduce the quality of life of couples. Also, blood testosterone levels drop after drinking alcohol, impairing sexual function.

In addition, smoking has significant adverse effects on male function. The more you smoke, the greater your risk of dysfunction , because nicotine disrupts endocrine secretions, hinders the secretion of sex hormones, and lowers testosterone levels in the blood. Nicotine also acts on blood vessels, making arterioles hardening and spasm, thereby affecting sexual function.

2. High-fat diet

A study in the United States found that eating too much high-fat food can raise cholesterol, thereby increasing the risk of ED and PE . The specific reason is not yet clear, scholars speculate that it may be caused by high blood lipids causing atherosclerosis , leading to stenosis of some vascular lumen and poor blood flow.

3. Sedentary

Sitting still for more than 8 hours a day is considered sedentary. There are many dangers of being sedentary, including early male menopause .

On the one hand, sedentary men tend to accumulate fat in their abdomens, resulting in a "beer belly". On the other hand, prolonged sitting can cause long-term compression of the prostate and testicles, affecting local blood circulation and increasing the risk of sexual dysfunction.

Therefore, there are many reasons for male dysfunction. Only by finding the cause and prescribing the right medicine can the problem be completely solved. Taking PE as an example, how should we judge whether we are PE and how to deal with it? Let's learn together!

2. How long does it take for a man to be "normal"?

The time that men insist on varies from person to person. Some people are ten minutes, and some people are a few minutes. So how long is it normal to hold on?

Medically, premature ejaculation is a common male dysfunction, mainly refers to the ejaculation at the beginning of intercourse, even before the beginning of the ejaculation, and it is impossible to carry out a normal married life. How about holding on for a few minutes?

According to its clinical definition, the latency of primary premature ejaculation is within 1 minute, and the latency of secondary premature ejaculation is within 3 minutes. In addition to the length of time, it also depends on the satisfaction of the partner. If it is satisfied within 3 minutes, it means that the problem is not big, and it should not be diagnosed as premature ejaculation.

Therefore, the diagnosis of premature ejaculation mainly depends on two points: ① time; ② satisfaction.

If you still can't judge whether you are premature ejaculation after seeing this, you can also refer to the PE assessment scale, score each item, and then compare the results to make a judgment:

PE assessment scale results:

·> 11 points, it can be judged as premature ejaculation;

9-10 points, the possibility of premature ejaculation is high;

＜8 points, the possibility of premature ejaculation is small;

3. What should I do? Scientific processing is the key

Premature ejaculation can increase the mental burden, cause anxiety and depression, and affect the harmony of partners and families. If you encounter this disease, don't avoid it, you must correct your mentality, you should actively deal with it, and find the right way to solve the problem.

The first step is to go to a regular hospital for diagnosis and treatment , and receive professional treatment intervention in order to avoid detours. The current treatment methods for premature ejaculation include psychotherapy, behavioral therapy, drug therapy and surgical therapy, etc. The main principle is to reduce nerve and brain excitability and establish new conditioning reflexes.

The second step is to have good communication between husband and wife . Relationships are the best "lubricant". Understanding each other's needs, cooperating with each other, helping each other, and finding ways to satisfy both parties can not only enhance feelings, but also build self-confidence and improve the quality of life.

The third step is to change bad living habits , achieve regular work and rest, go to bed early and get up early, stay up late, and ensure adequate sleep. At the same time, insist on physical exercise, enhance immunity, avoid overwork, quit smoking and limit alcohol, so as to maintain a healthy state and have better physical strength and energy to manage the married life.

In life, many men are worried about their "short time", but they don't need to be so psychologically burdened. Of course, if there is a disease problem, we must have the courage to face it, treat it scientifically, adjust our mentality, and actively solve the problem, in order to make the married life more harmonious.

References:

[1] Guo Jun . Guidelines for Multidisciplinary Diagnosis and Treatment of Premature Ejaculation with Integrated Traditional Chinese and Western Medicine (2021 Edition ) [J]. Chinese Journal of Andrology , 2021, 35(3):7.

[2] Song Chuanmin . Talking about several common causes of male sexual dysfunction [J]. Chinese Journal of Chinese and Western Medicine , 2008, 6(B06):33-33.

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