Zhengzhou Anxiety: How to Cope with Separation Anxiety?
Here are four things you can try to deal with separation anxiety:
- Let the living conditions at home be similar to those in kindergartens.
One reason babies don't adapt to kindergarten is that kindergarten life is very different from home life.
At home, you can sleep in, someone feeds you, you are attentive and responsive, and you don't have to do a lot of things on your own...
But in kindergarten, there are rules for everything you do, and you have to do it yourself. Teachers will not only pay attention to themselves, but also have some small conflicts with friends...
It is recommended to adjust the rhythm and mode of life at home to kindergarten, get up at about the same time, take a nap on time, eat and dress by himself, and simulate kindergarten life through role-playing to help him feel the fun of going to kindergarten.
- Establish a sense of ritual when separating.
I said don't sneak away and don't hold my baby and cry, so how can I be separated from my baby?
A farewell ceremony that is not sloppy or perfunctory is needed.
Prepare for about 10 minutes. Adjustments can be made to suit your baby, but don't put it off for too long.
Play with the baby for a while, and tell him that his mother is going to work happily.
Establish a time marker for when you go home and give your baby a clear expectation. For example, if you leave work at 6 pm, and the baby eats fruit around 5 o'clock, then you say: "After eating the fruit, my mother will come back."
Before going out, I want to stress again, Mom is gone, you will come back after eating the fruit. Then happily and decisively left.
Hold on for a while, and the baby will understand that it is necessary for the mother to leave, but when she comes back, she will really come back to play with him.
- Go home with high-quality company.
Leaving and coming back is a commitment between you and your baby. "Mom is back!" Give the baby a warm hug.
Let your baby feel through your words and deeds that going to work is a happy thing, not a terrible thing.
During this time at home, do some intimate behaviors with your baby that are only yours, for example, mother will bathe the baby regularly, tell stories, put the baby to sleep, etc. Make your short time together more special and more worthy of your baby's expectation for the whole day.
Some mothers worry that if I give it to my grandmother, will the child not kiss me? In fact, with high-quality company, how can the baby not kiss the mother? No one else can replace what a mother gives to her baby.