Zhengzhou Anxiety: For separation anxiety in children, these 3 situations should be avoided.
3 Coping Situations Parents Should Avoid For Kids With Separation Anxiety
- to leave secretly
In fact, this scenario is very common. The family uses toys, food, and all kinds of things to attract the baby's attention, while winking at the mother to let the mother go. Or simply take your baby to another room without letting him see mom leave.
This seems to solve the problem, but it is not desirable.
Think of yourself as a baby. think about it. My mother was still there just now, but I don't know when she suddenly disappeared. How nervous the baby should be.
Because of this, he will panic more and stick to his mother more, and he cannot feel at ease even with his mother, which has a great impact on his psychological growth.
- The mother herself has severe separation anxiety.
To be honest, my mom must have separation anxiety too, especially with her. She would really worry about separation.
But your negative emotions can add to your baby's distress. Your baby can feel your emotions when you frown, cry, worry, reluctant, say goodbye. When he sees that you're afraid to separate, he doesn't even want to.
Therefore, it is important to deal with your separation anxiety first, and believe that every separation is for the better growth of the child.
- Criticize the child
During the process of separation anxiety, babies may have many "abnormal" emotions and behaviors. For example, I used to be able to sleep all night, but now I cry and drink night milk. I used to sleep in a crib, and now I cry to sleep with my mother; I used to sleep by myself, now I don't, wake up on the ground, and explode on the bed; I used to be a good kid, but now I'm grumpy and throwing things.
But these behaviors are normal.
Although it will bring a lot of trouble to the mother and the family, don't blame the baby too much for it, such as saying "what's wrong with you" and "you won't come back if you do this again"...
Because blame makes separation anxiety last longer, and threats make the problem worse.