How do you deal with your own sadness?
Each of us experiences loss in life. When we lose someone or something we care about, we experience grief. When this kind of grief affects us a lot, we need to learn to deal with it.
People grieve when faced with many situations, including the death of a loved one, divorce, leaving home, business, miscarriage, pet death, and more.
Grief can be expressed in many ways. We also experience physical problems from grief, such as sleep problems, stomach pain, increased appetite, weight gain, and weight loss. When we are sad, we sometimes experience anger or fear.
So how do we deal with grief?
- Keep a diary. When we record our thoughts and feelings in a journal, we feel a sense of relief, as if the negative energy in our hearts is transferred to the pen tip and notebook. When we look back at journaling, it also helps us see ourselves in a third-person perspective, gaining new feelings, thoughts, attitudes, and emotions.
Talk to relatives. Talk to your loved one about how it made them feel. They also talk about their feelings, and we can feel the strength and recovery from the conversations they have with us when we are sad.
Join a psychological support group. When we participate in group psychology activities, we meet people who have the same or similar experiences as us. We listen to their stories, listen to their feelings, share our stories, share our feelings, so that we can get the support of the group.
- Talk to a consultant. If you are unwilling to join a psychological group, or there is no suitable psychological group in your area, you can choose to have a one-on-one conversation with a psychological counselor.
Remember, we can't rush things. If we allow ourselves to go through a counseling or two, we can quickly become happy from the sad process, give ourselves more time, and believe that the difficult times will pass.