Which families are prone to cause low self-esteem in children?
- Like to scold children
Many parents are happy to compare. Back home, they like to criticize their children. "Why are you so stupid? The neighbor's children are much better than you." "Study is so poor, I'm too embarrassed to play!"
This is a mantra that many parents like. We all know that our seemingly inadvertent scolding can hurt children's young minds, causing them to lose confidence and feel that they are not as good as others.
- Excessive thrift
Diligence and thrift are the virtues of the Chinese nation, but everything is too much. In order to cultivate the habit of frugality in their children from an early age, many parents often "cry poor" in front of their children, or do not give their children pocket money, do not buy things for their children, etc.
As everyone knows, this method will make children feel "inferior" and feel that they are poor, so they dare not go out to play and chat with their classmates, because the "poor thoughts" instilled by their parents will unconsciously create a feeling of "inferiority" in the children's hearts, which will affect the children. normal social relations.
- Families that use violence
Many parents do not pay attention to their behavior in front of their children, such as arguing or fighting in front of their children.
Such scenes, accompanied by domestic violence, will cause serious trauma to the child's young mind, or make the child's temper become irritable, because the parents' words and deeds will make him have a wrong understanding: violence can solve all problems.
- Parents are strong
In some families, parents have very strong personalities, which is also reflected in their usual words and deeds towards their children. Kids are not allowed to do this or that. Children who do wrong will be severely punished, never communicate with children, and think that filial sons are born under a stick. Such education will only make children more and more inferior.
For children, the real education comes from the long-term company of parents. Every child wants their parents to hear their inner voice, but many parents ignore this and always impose their own ideas on their children, whether they like it or not. If parents are willing to communicate with them seriously, they will find a lot of things that move you. It's not the children that are bad, but the complex hearts of our adults.