What are the families that are likely to cause low self-esteem in children?
- Like to scold children
Many parents enjoy comparisons. At home, they like to criticize their children. "Why are you so stupid? The neighbor's kid is much better than you." "I'm so poor at study, I'm ashamed to play!"
This is a mantra that many parents love. As we all know, our seemingly inadvertent scolding will hurt the young hearts of children, so that they will not be confident and feel that they are not as good as others.
- Excessive frugality
Diligence and thrift are the virtues of the Chinese nation, but too much is too much. In order to cultivate the habit of frugality in their children, many parents often "cry poor" in front of their children, or do not give their children pocket money, do not buy things for their children, and so on.
As everyone knows, this method will make children feel "inferiority" and feel that they are poor, so they dare not go out to play and chat with classmates, because the "poor thoughts" instilled by parents will unconsciously produce a feeling of "inferiority" in children's hearts, affecting normal social relations.
- Violent families
Many parents do not pay attention to their behavior in front of their children, such as quarreling or fighting in front of their children.
Such scenes are accompanied by domestic violence, which will cause serious trauma to the child's young heart, or make the child's temper violent, because the parents' words and deeds will give him a wrong understanding that violence can solve all problems.
- Parents are strong
In some families, the parents have a very strong personality, which is also reflected in their usual words and deeds to their children. Children are not allowed to do this or that. Children who do wrong things will be severely punished, never communicate with children, and think that a filial son is born under a stick. This kind of education will only make children more and more inferior.
For children, real education comes from the long-term company of parents. Every child hopes that their parents can hear their inner voice, but many parents ignore this and always impose their own ideas on their children, whether they like it or not. If parents are willing to communicate with them seriously, they will find many things that move you. It is not the children who are bad, but the complex hearts of us adults.