Top 10 Reasons Parents Trigger Children's Rebellion! (two)
- Expose children's old bottom, guilt-type education
Some parents like to turn to old accounts when criticizing their children; or they often lead their children to feel in the position of the victim, causing their children to feel guilty. Parents have long used old accounts to hurt their children and guilt to control them. Allowing children to experience this uncomfortable feeling for a long time can easily lead to shame and anger, which can lead to alienation from their parents.
- Irony and sarcastic child
When your child is about to go to a party, he deliberately changes his clothes to ask for your opinion, but you say, "With such poor grades, any clothes are useless. No one wants to be with poor students." Cynical cynicism is like a sword, it will damage parents The parent-child relationship with the child.
- Preaching
Parents always tell their children what to do and what not to do, and always direct or control their children's behavior. Children will feel that their parents do not trust them and have no control over their lives. Over time, children will hate their parents' preaching, refuse their parents' instructions, and even go against their parents. It is often found that a little boy is a toddler, and the parents shout "this can't be touched" at the back, and the child will touch it; "don't step on the water in front", so the child deliberately steps on it. The child's subconscious is self-exploration and refuses instructions.
- Threats
Say to parents and children: "If you don't finish your homework on time, your phone will be confiscated." The child's idea is usually not how to complete the homework on time, but how to play with the phone next time without being discovered. Threats often leave children feeling powerless or fluke, resenting their parents.
- Lying.
Something happened at home that parents didn't want their children to know about. Parents often hide or even lie to their children. But children are very sensitive. As long as there is a clue, they will realize that their parents are hiding something, and they will think that their parents are not sincere and do not trust them. The best way to do this is to be honest with the child so that the child will open up to the parent.
- Punishment
Many parents believe that severe punishment can build up the prestige of parents and make children more obedient. While ostensibly effective, frequent punishment of a child is likely to lead to negative emotions such as resentment, guilt, shame, and hopelessness, thereby reinforcing the child's negative behavior. The right thing to do is to discipline children with proper discipline. If the child makes a mistake, he will learn to take due responsibility instead of punishment.
The growth of children is inseparable from their parents, and the attitudes and behaviors of parents directly affect the emotional development of children. Try to avoid the above ten ways of treating children, and the child's rebellious period will be easily passed.