Emotionally neglected childhood may bury hidden dangers of depression

During childhood, if parents are more concerned about their children's feelings and emotions while caring about their children's clothing, food, housing, transportation and learning, it will help children learn to pay attention to and understand their own emotions. In the process of growing up, children can form a sound self-awareness, know how to care for themselves, love themselves, manage their emotions, and have stronger mental toughness like adults.

People who grow up in home environments that receive little emotional attention often become "good kids" because they know that they don't get attention when they're sad, crying, or angry, and gradually learn to automatically suppress their own mood. And when they do, they are praised by their parents, which reinforces their emotional neglect.

However, this "follow-up" comes at a price. Later in life, when they encounter problems, they tend to suppress their feelings. When the great pain comes and cannot be restrained, they will collapse, and they will feel especially inferior and remorseful for their emotional outbursts.

Depressed Emotions and Depressed Personalities

First of all, I have a habit of ignoring my emotions. When the brain encounters external stimuli that induce emotions and feelings, it cannot form normal feedback. As a result, I am unable to identify, express, manage and use my emotions. Long-term accumulation, emotions will become entangled with each other, imbalance, self-blame instead of anger, indifference instead of fear, numbness instead of sadness...  

For example, anger is a powerful and important feeling when used properly. Expressing anger when necessary has the function of developing one's own psychological space, establishing interpersonal boundaries, preventing aggression and expressing needs. People who are accustomed to suppressing their emotions will not be able to express their anger, and anger will turn into severe criticism and attacks on themselves, making people hate themselves and belittle themselves. The typical state is: "This is because I'm not good enough. I deserve it."

This kind of self-attack is actually an effective way to reduce anxiety, not only to be safe, but also to increase my sense of strength - it's my fault, so I can change my mistakes and reverse the situation.

At the same time, people who are emotionally neglected will always feel lonely. When they are overwhelmed, they do not choose to turn to others, but face it alone.

In this case, repressed cognitions, images, and feelings permeate a person in a covert, orderly, slow, and persistent way and become part of his personality.