The poorer the child is, the more he likes to eat three bowls of rice, and he raises unfilial sons without knowing it.

There is a saying that children from poor families are in charge of the family early. The poorer the family is, the more ambitious the children will be. They will be able to understand the difficulties of their parents. They will be independent and sensible since childhood. Cross the class and live a good life. But now this form has changed. There are more and more "rich second generation" children from poor families, and more and more white-eyed wolves. This is inseparable from the education of their parents, and the poorer the poorer The more the family loves to let their children eat these three bowls of rice, the more they raise a white-eyed wolf without knowing it.

The first bowl of rice, father watching, son eating

A video circulated on the Internet about a father and son who went to eat when the restaurant was about to close, the mother was waiting outside, the father only ordered a bowl of rice, sat opposite the child watching him eat, and made a The projection version of the cardboard box, stand on it and let his son watch while eating. This father is dressed as a migrant worker. He may have just finished a day's work. He is tired and wears a hard hat on his head, but he is full of eyes. They are all sons, and the son eats with peace of mind. This scene was filmed by netizens, and with the consent of his father, it was posted on the Internet.

But the opinions of netizens are surprisingly unanimous. They think that fathers are great, but can such fatherly love make children grateful? When parents give all their love to their children, the mother is standing outside, the father is starving and watching the child eat, but the son is indifferent, as if this is a matter of course, can such a child grow up, can he be filial? Is it difficult to understand your parents? It's really hard to tell.

The second bowl of rice, about whose bowl has poached eggs

A mother and son were eating at home. The mother made two bowls of noodles. The son came over and took a look. He put the bowl with poached eggs in front of him, and pushed the noodles without poached eggs to the mother. The son did the right thing. If it were her, he would give the bowl of poached eggs to his son, but he didn't expect that after many years, the son ate a bowl of noodles without poached eggs. He glared at his mother, what about my poached eggs?

This is a story, and it's actually played out in millions of families. Parents leave the best to their children, but forget about themselves. Years later, children take all this for granted, forgetting that parents will grow old and need Nutrition, when he got married and started a business, he completely forgot his parents, just like the plot in the TV series "Settlement", his parents worked hard all their lives selling buns, and finally bought a house for their son with the full amount, but the old couple took their luggage to go with their son. While living, the son began to despise his parents, and the parents had no choice but to leave, raising children and raising their children for the rest of their lives. They wanted their children to be filial, but unexpectedly they became white-eyed wolves.

The third bowl of rice, who is the rice for?

A family of four was eating. There were meat in three bowls, and one bowl was rice. The old man picked up a bowl with meat, but his daughter-in-law snatched it away. The old man had no choice but to pick up a bowl of white rice with tears in his eyes. Xiancai started to eat, but he didn't expect that all this would be seen by the children. Years later, he ate with his wife and children, and also gave his mother such a bowl of rice, eat it, it's yours. The mother was stunned. What a similar plot. She used to treat the elderly like this. This scene was staged on her son.

Filial piety is a family tradition. How adults treat the elderly, children will be like you in the future. If you plant good fruit, you will surely bear sweet fruit. If you plant evil fruit, you will eat the bad fruit in the future. This is the role of words and deeds. To make children filial, parents need to examine themselves first and see how they are doing.

Why is it that the poorer the family, the easier it is for parents to spoil their children?

There is a strange phenomenon these days. The richer the family, the more emphasis is placed on cultivating children's abilities in all aspects, while the poorer the family, the easier it is to raise ignorant children.

1. Parents' debt

Nowadays, the gap between the rich and the poor is getting bigger and bigger. Many parents cannot provide their children with good material conditions. They always have a mentality of indebtedness to their children, and they are easy to respond to their children's needs. Let the children live a decent life, this is the psychology of the rich second generation of the poor, the children raised in this way tend to ignore the hard work of their parents and take their demands for granted. Incompetent, how can such a child be grateful and filial?

2. Children's psychology of comparison

Today's children are relatively precocious, and they have an early comparison mentality. If their classmates have anything, they have to buy it themselves. With this kind of vanity, it is easy to ask their parents endlessly. Parents worry that their children will have low self-esteem and will satisfy their children indefinitely. However, they do not know that there is no limit to the comparison of children. When they were young, they might envy others for having a ball. With a car and a house, how do parents fill this desire pit? Comparing will make a child lose his mind and pursue his desires indefinitely. When he grows up, he will spend a lot of money, and will drain his parents and become an old man.

The family economy is not good, how to educate the children?

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Not every family can provide their children with superior conditions. If the family economy is not good, they should educate their children well, so that the children can be grateful, become independent early, and be able to take care of themselves. Therefore, when educating children, parents should tell their children that every Individuals cannot choose their own background, but we can use knowledge to change our destiny. As long as we work hard, we will get better and better. We don’t need to envy those children who rely on our family. This only shows that their parents are very capable. But your future will be full of infinite possibilities. You might as well compare it 20 years later to see who is stronger?

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Parents should guide their children from material desires to learning, let their children start comparing and learning, focus on books, and make comparisons a driving force. Parents should also let their children know how to be grateful, do not let children eat alone, do not spoil children, and let children learn to be strong in the face of adversity.