Who brought up the baby, just by saying hello? The baby raised by the mother alone has distinctive features
Was the child brought up by the elderly, or was the mother brought up alone? Let the child know when he says hello? Professor Li Meijin once recalled an interesting incident. Once she entered the elevator, she saw a little boy riding on her father's neck. When she entered the door, she shouted, Grandma, you haven't pressed the floor yet. Professor Li Meijin knew immediately that there must be someone in this child's family There are many people, including parents, grandparents, and children who were brought up together. But what if the child is brought up by the mother alone?
Professor Li Meijin told everyone that if a mother takes her child to work, as long as the child can speak at the age of three, others can do an experiment. You go to the child and tell the child, you call me aunt, and I will give it to you. You are delicious, see how the child behaves, if the child holds the adult's hand to look at you, although he lowers his head a bit shy, but still calls auntie, then don't ask, there are at least two caregivers around the child above. If the child behaves in another way, looks at you, lowers his head, looks left and right, makes a fuss to leave, and doesn't say hello to anyone, then such a child is basically brought up by the mother alone. This child can't open his mouth to outsiders. Why do children brought up by mothers have such distinctive characteristics? This phenomenon can be explained in many ways.
First, there are many people in the family, the language environment is complex, and the child's personality is more multifaceted.
Children like to say hello, laugh when they see people, etc., which are all part of their personality, and the acquired environment plays an important role in shaping their personality. For example, if there are many people in the family, children will absorb the personality of different people when they play with different people. characteristics, such as the mother is more introverted, the child has a shy element in his personality, but if he follows his grandparents and goes downstairs to chat with others when he has nothing to do, the child's shyness will gradually disappear, and it will be replaced by a cheerful and noisy family with many people. It is more lively, and the child doesn't have many opportunities to be alone, so he is more outgoing, and he is not shy when meeting strangers. If the parents give a hint, he will sweetly call people.
Second, the mother takes care of the child alone and has little communication with the child
If the mother is alone with the child and there is no one else in the family to help take care of it, the child may be a little introverted, which is also very understandable. For example, grandma takes the child to play, and she likes to chat with people of the same age. He also likes to show off and ask his children to call someone. Young people don’t know how to greet people all the way with their mothers, and they don’t have time to chat with others, so the child lacks training in this area. He is used to only communicating with his mother, so he looks even more Be introverted, and hide behind your mother when you see strangers. This is just like the children in the city and the children in the village. The children in the city are accustomed to seeing everything, and the children in the village will be curious when they see strangers. I looked at it, but when people talked to him, he ran away all of a sudden. This was all the result of the training the day after tomorrow.
In fact, this statement is not absolute
Many netizens also put forward their own views on this statement. A certain mother shared that it was wrong. My child is brought by myself. I laugh when I see people. When I am 6 months old, I will gesture goodbye to others. When I see me with others When saying hello, I will take the initiative to say hello to uncle and aunt. Now that I am in college, I still like to greet people. I think the key lies in the tutoring and the personality of the child. Many children brought up by grandparents are also very delicate. This cannot be generalized.
Some mothers also said that they disagree with this statement, which has something to do with the mother's personality. If the mother is more introverted and doesn't like to say hello when she sees people, the child will follow suit. If the mother doesn't like to go to crowded places, The children do not have such an environment to exercise their social skills. On the contrary, the mother is very outgoing and cheerful, and the children will follow suit. Some elderly people do not like to go out and talk less. How can they bring out children who love to say hello? Still divided.
Children do not like to say hello, is it impolite and introverted?
In fact, it takes a process for children to establish a basic relationship with others. Children don’t like to say hello, so they say they are rude and introverted. This is a one-sided statement. Adults can’t label children like this. It seems very simple, but when dealing with people, children have to break through several layers of barriers, which is not an easy task.
For example, when a child greets someone, he needs to know who this person is, remember this person, and accurately say whether this person is an uncle or uncle, aunt or sister. Adults often urge children, why don’t they know how to call someone? But I forgot to remind the child what this person should be called, so the child can't always speak.
In addition, if the child is unwilling to say hello, parents should not reprimand the child, thinking that the child is ignorant and impolite, the mother can guide the child, ask him why he does not want to talk to strangers, and tell him that if he does not want to call this aunt, next time he sees you When she is with her, she can politely smile or wave her hand, which is also a kind of response. When the child gradually gets familiar with her, one day, the child suddenly calls out "Auntie Hello" loudly, what a surprise it should be.
Forcing the child to call someone, this is a way of hurting the child's self-esteem. He is shy in front of strangers, and the parents still refuse to let go, reprimanding the child, which not only embarrasses the other party, but also makes the child feel ashamed. If you have a bad impression, you will prefer to avoid it next time, so the guidance of parents is very important, and whether children like to say hello or not is also related to their own personality and the guidance of people around them. It is unilaterally said that the mother brought up alone. Children, even if you don't like to say hello, it's also one-sided.
Do you think that a child raised by a mother alone likes to say hello to others?