Who brought the baby up, just say hello? A baby brought up by her mother alone, with distinctive features

Is the child brought up by the elderly, or is the mother brought up alone and let the child know by saying hello? Professor Li Meijin once recalled an interesting story. Once she entered the elevator and saw a little boy riding on her father's neck. She shouted when she entered the door, "Grandma, you haven't pressed the floor yet. Professor Li Meijin knew immediately that this child must have someone at home." Many people, including parents, grandparents and grandparents, have children brought up by everyone. But what if the child was brought up by the mother alone?

Professor Li Meijin told everyone that if the mother leads the child to the work unit, as long as the child can talk at the age of three, others can do an experiment. You walk to the child and tell the child, "You call me auntie, and I will give it to you." You are delicious, let's see how the child behaves. If the child takes the adult's hand and looks at you, although he bows his head and is a little shy, but still calls the aunt, then don't ask, there are at least two supporters beside the child above. If the child is another kind of expression, looking at you, lowering his head, looking left and right, making a fuss to leave, and not saying hello to anyone, then such a child is basically brought by the mother alone. The child can't open his mouth to outsiders. Why do children brought up by mothers have such distinctive characteristics? This phenomenon can be explained in many ways.

First, there are many family members, the language environment is complex, and the children's personalities are more diverse.

Children love to say hello and laugh when they meet people, all of which are part of their character, and the acquired environment plays an important role in shaping the character. Characteristics, such as the mother is more introverted, and the child's personality is shy, but following the grandparents, going downstairs and chatting with others, the child's shyness gradually disappears, replaced by a cheerful, noisy, crowded family, home It is more lively, and the child has few opportunities to be alone, so he is more outgoing, and he is not shy when he meets strangers. If the parents give a little hint, he will be sweetly called.

Second, the mother takes the child alone and communicates less with the child

If the mother takes the child alone and there is no other person at home to take care of the child, the child may be a little more introverted. He also likes to show off and ask the child to call someone, and the mother takes the child. Young people will not greet people all the way, and they have no time to chat with others, so the child lacks training in this area. Be a little more introverted. When they see strangers, they will hide behind their mothers. This is just like the children in the city and the children in the village. The children in the city are used to seeing everything. The children in the village will be curious when they see a stranger. Looking at it, but when someone talked to him, he ran away all of a sudden. This is the result of the training the day after tomorrow.

In fact, this statement is not absolute

Many netizens also put forward their own views on this statement. A certain mother shared that it was wrong. My children were brought by me. I laughed when I saw everyone. When we say hello, we always take the initiative to say hello to uncle and aunt. Now that I am in college, I still like to say hello to people. I think the key is to look at the tutor and the character of the child. Many children brought out by grandparents are also very charming. This cannot be generalized.

Some mothers also say that they disagree with this statement, because it has something to do with the mother's personality. If the mother is more introverted and doesn't like to say hello when she sees people, the child will also say hello. If the mother doesn't like to go to crowded places, Children do not have such an environment to exercise their social skills. On the contrary, mothers are very outgoing and cheerful, and children will follow suit. Some elderly people don’t like to go out and talk less. How can they bring out children who love to say hello? Still divided.

Is your child just rude and introverted if they don't like to say hello?

In fact, it takes a process for children to establish basic connections with people. Children who don’t like to say hello and say that children are rude and introverted is a one-sided statement. Adults can’t label children like this. In life, adults say hello to others. It seems very simple, but when dealing with people, children have to break through several layers of obstacles. This is not an easy thing.

For example, when a child greets someone, he needs to know who this person is, he needs to remember this person, and he also needs to accurately say whether this person is an uncle or an uncle, an aunt or a sister. But he forgot to remind the child what to call this person, so the child was always unable to speak.

In addition, if the child is unwilling to say hello, parents should not reprimand the child. They feel that the child is ignorant and impolite. The mother can guide the child and ask him why he does not want to talk to strangers, and tell him that if he does not want to call this aunt, see him next time. When she is with her, you can politely smile or wave your hand, which is also a kind of response. When the child gradually gets to know her, suddenly one day, the child calls out loudly auntie hello, what a surprise.

Forcing a child to call someone is a way of hurting the child's self-esteem. He is shy in front of strangers, and the parents refuse to forgive him. Rebuking the child will not only embarrass the other party, but also make the child feel ashamed. He greets the child. If I have a bad impression, I prefer to avoid it next time, so the guidance of parents is very important, and whether the child likes to say hello or not is also related to his own personality and the guidance of the people around him. Children, even if they don't like to say hello, they are one-sided.

Do you think that a child raised by a mother alone likes to say hello to others?