When a child looks like his father, there will be three changes in his psychology. It is very realistic, don't rush to deny it
What is the most pleasing sentence when you go to visit a newborn? It's not that the baby looks like its mother, but that the baby looks like its father! This is a saying that kills three birds with one stone. The child resembles the father, which proves that it is the father’s own, and affirms the mother’s loyalty. Second, it makes the mother-in-law happy. Our family’s genes are good. Third, it emphasizes the role of the father invisibly. Let fathers love their children more. In fact, there is no need for outsiders to exaggerate. When a father sees that his child looks like himself, he will take the initiative to produce three psychological changes. In fact, it is very realistic.
The first kind of psychology, very proud, has a sense of genetic narcissism
Regarding who the baby looks like, it seems that the mother is more sensitive, but in fact, the most sensitive is the father. I remember reading a news that the child looks like the mother and not the father. The father even went to do a DNA test, and finally confirmed that the baby is not hugged. Wrong, it can be seen that when a father sees a child who is not like his own, he is very concerned about it, but if the situation is the opposite, when the baby looks like his father at a glance, the father will have a sense of pride in his heart, which is unique to men A kind of mentality, which represents a strong sense of possessiveness and territoriality. When his genes appear in the next generation, this feeling is especially strong, but men are not good at expressing, otherwise you will see that he will be very aggressive when he meets everyone. Kua, look at how powerful my genes are, and how much my child looks like me! This is like when my mother is pregnant. The first thing my mother feels is moving, but my father first thinks, I am so amazing, I got pregnant soon after I was preparing for pregnancy! See, this is the way a man thinks.
The second psychology, the affirmation of his wife's loyalty
In China, the child's birth certificate shows the name of the father and the mother together, but in the United States, the child's birth certificate only has the name of the mother. The reason they give is that the mother of the child is sure because they saw it with their own eyes. When the child is born, as for the father, it is not certain, so when a child looks very like a father, the father will first give full marks to his wife's loyalty, and then he will feel grateful to his wife for bearing children for him , is this realistic? Men always figure out the issue of belonging before being nice to a person, and they will not be dazzled by joy.
The third psychology is to prefer children who look like themselves
When a child looks like a father, the father will have a preference for the child in his heart. This is not a casual talk, but a scientific basis. Psychologist Steven Pladick said a few years ago, Recruited a group of volunteers, took pictures of them, and integrated their facial features with the appearance of some children through technology, so that there were some children who were very similar to them, and they divided the photos into several groups. Volunteers asked questions, which child do you want to accompany, which child do you want to pay child support for? The results were very interesting. The male volunteers chose children who looked more like themselves, and even chose to forgive the children when they made mistakes.
When psychologists further increase these similarities, when a child has more than 50% similarity with male volunteers in appearance, he shows his willingness to adopt a child, while women do not show this tendency. This experiment is sufficient It has been confirmed that men prefer children who look like themselves.
Therefore, in a two- or three-child family, if a certain child is very similar to the father, whether it is a boy or a girl, the father will show his preference for this child. This child has a more competitive advantage than other children, so many children grow up When I grew up, when I complained about my father's eccentricity, this is actually a real problem, and it also widely exists among men. I can only say that this child is luckier.
In addition, a man's preference for a child will also be reflected in other aspects, such as similar tastes. When he finds that a certain aspect of the child is similar to him, he will also invest a lot of interest, so two kinds of children in front of their fathers They are very popular, either because they look a lot like their father, or their personality and hobbies follow their father's, and their father is more willing to spend more company and energy on them.
Therefore, this is also an inspiration for mothers. If the baby looks like the father, you should quickly get the father involved and let him help you take care of the child. Mothers can also take this opportunity to be lazy.