Is 'life without children' really happy? Two pairs of DINK couples tell you: can't hold on
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Due to the current social pressure, many young couples are beginning to consider whether to become "DINK".
You must know that in traditional Chinese customs, "DINK" is actually a behavior that is difficult for the elders to understand. After all, getting married and having children is the inheritance of life, and it is also a continuation of the "incense" of one's own family .
Why are more and more couples now considering "DINK"
It may be difficult for some families with children to understand why they should choose to be "DINK".
You must know that children are very cute, and a family with children is considered complete, and most elderly people will not agree to their children to be "DINK", but why are there so many young couples considering becoming a DINK? What about "Dink"?
life pressure
The pressure of life now is much greater than before. In the past, it was enough to have food to eat, but now it is different. Not only do you have to run around for your own livelihood, but also consider your children and elders.
Earlier data showed that hundreds of millions of people in China were paid only 2,000 yuan, and some were even less than 2,000 yuan.
As a result, some young couples with a lot of pressure in their lives choose to be "Dinks", accepting that they suffer a little bit, and don't want their children to suffer with them.
change of mind
The thinking of contemporary young people has created a "generation gap" with the older generation. Today's couples pay more attention to the quality of life. They recognize that they have no savings, and they also want to improve their quality of life. However, the quality of life will decline when they have children. Share each other's love with children, so the idea of being a "Dink" came into being.
It is an undeniable fact that "Dink" is really comfortable, but will the days of "childless" really be happy? In real life, there are two pairs of "DINK" couples that we are familiar with, let's see if they evaluate the life of "DINK".
The 10-year "DINK" couple chose to have a child at the age of 41, and said bluntly: they couldn't hold on
I don't know how many people still remember the actress Xie Lan. She has left many classic roles and scenes for everyone. Due to the filming reasons, it is difficult to take into account her husband, so the two felt that they were "Dinks" after marriage, and they never wanted to. child.
However, just after the 10th anniversary of the two, they suddenly had the idea of wanting a child.
According to Xie Lan's description: I often see friends posting about their children. The videos and photos are very heartwarming. Seeing other people have children, I want one too.
After her husband found out about Xie Lan's idea, she supported her very much. Although Xie Lan was already a "senior mother", she was also very active in preparing for pregnancy and gave birth to a lovely son at the age of 41.
Xie Lan, who ended her 10-year "DINK" life, said: DINK does give husband and wife more time together, but they can't enjoy the joy of having children, and the older they get, the more they want children. It's persisting.
Model couple Kang Hui: If you can do it all over again, you must have a child
CCTV host Kang Hui believes that everyone must be familiar with it. Some time ago, he and his partner carried out "live broadcast", but Kang Hui chose to be a "DINK", and this choice made him very regretful.
In order to take their careers to a higher level and better realize their self-worth, Kang Hui and his wife, regardless of their parents' urging, finally chose to be a "DINK" couple.
However, in an interview on the show, Kang Hui said that his choice was very unwise, "The most sorry thing for my parents in this life is that they didn't let them hold a grandson. If I had another chance, I would definitely choose to have a child."
What Kang Hui regrets most is that he chose a career to fight for and did not have children when he was young, but when he is at a stable age, he has no way to have children.
Couples who choose "DINK", what problems will there be in the future
1) Pension
"Dink" couples have to face the most realistic problem, that is, life in old age.
Others have children to take care of, but the "Dink" couple can only rely on themselves. Even if the family has money, they can go to a nursing home, but when they see other people's children coming to visit their elders, their hearts are not happy.
2) Opposition from family members
It is difficult for the "Dink" couple to convince their family members, even Kang Hui is often urged by family members.
The concept of the elderly is to marry and have children and continue the "incense", but the practice of "DINK" couples breaks the concept of the elderly, so it is easy to have conflicts with family members or elders.
3) Marriage is not secure enough
Having a child is not only a continuation of the "incense", but also the crystallization of the love between husband and wife.
Having children will strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, and a husband and wife with children is more like a family. Both parties will have a common goal, and this goal is the future life of the child.
end
"DINK" sounds like a very trendy word, but in fact, there are many helpless, especially after the age of 40, seeing the friends and family of three are very happy, my heart will always be empty, and facing my parents, I always only Can bow.
"Dink" will make you live a cool life before the age of 40, but having children will make you happy all your life.
Today's topic: What do you think of the "DINK" family?