Is 'childless life' really happy? Two DINK couples tell you: can't hold on
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Due to the current social pressure, many young couples are beginning to consider whether to become "DINK".
You must know that in traditional Chinese customs, "DINK" is actually a kind of behavior that is difficult for elders to understand. After all, getting married and having children is the inheritance of life and the continuation of one's own "incense" .
Why are more and more couples now considering "DINK"
It may be difficult for some families who already have children to understand why they choose to be "DINK".
You know, children are very cute, and a family with children is considered complete. Moreover, most elderly people will not agree to their children becoming "DINKs", but why are there so many young couples considering becoming "DINKs"? What about "DINK"?
life stress
The pressure of life now is much greater than before. In the past, as long as there was food to eat, it was enough, but now it is different. Not only do I have to run around for my own livelihood, but I also have to consider children and elders.
Earlier data showed that the wages of hundreds of millions of people in China are only 2,000 yuan, and some are even less than 2,000 yuan.
As a result, some young couples with high pressure in life choose to be "DINKs", admit that they are suffering a little bit, and don't want their children to suffer with them.
concept change
The thinking of contemporary young people has created a "generation gap" with the older generation. Today's couples pay more attention to the quality of life. They admit that they have no savings and want to improve their own quality of life, but their quality of life will decline after having children, and they must Distribute each other's love to the children, so the idea of being a "DINK" came into being.
Being a "DINK" is indeed very comfortable, this is an undeniable fact, but will the days of "childless for a lifetime" really be happy? In real life, there are two "DINK" couples that we are familiar with, let's see if they evaluate the life of "DINK".
The 10-year "DINK" couple chose to have a child at the age of 41, and said bluntly: I can't hold on
I don’t know how many people still remember the actor Xie Lan. She has left many classic roles and scenes for everyone. Due to the reason of filming, it is difficult to take care of her husband, so the two feel that they have no intention of being a "DINK" after marriage. child.
However, just after the 10th anniversary of the two, they suddenly had the idea of wanting a child.
According to Xie Lan's description: I often see friends posting their own children. The videos and photos are very heartwarming. Seeing other people have children, I want one too.
After learning about Xie Lan's thoughts, her husband supported her very much. Although Xie Lan was already an "advanced mother", she was also very active in preparing for pregnancy, and successfully gave birth to a lovely son at the age of 41.
Xie Lan, who ended her 10-year "DINK" life, said: DINK does allow husbands and wives to spend more time together, but they can't enjoy the joy of having children, and the older they get, the more they want children. It's the insistence that's gone.
Model couple Kang Hui: If you can do it all over again, you must have a child
CCTV host Kang Hui believes that everyone must be familiar with it. Some time ago, he and his partner "live-streamed goods", but Kang Hui chose to be a "DINK", and this choice made him very regretful.
In order to take their careers to a higher level and better realize their self-worth, Kang Hui and his wife finally chose to be a "DINK" couple regardless of their parents' urging.
However, in the program interview, Kang Hui said that his choice was very unwise, "The most sorry thing for my parents in my life is that I didn't let them have a grandson. If I were given another chance, I would definitely choose to have a child."
The thing that Kang Hui regrets the most is that he chose his career and struggled without having children when he was young, but he has no way to have children when his career is stable.
What problems will the couples who choose "DINK" have in the future?
1) Pension
The "DINK" couples have to face the most realistic problem, which is their old age.
Other people have children to take care of, but the "DINK" couple can only rely on themselves. Even if the family has money, they can go to a nursing home, but when they see other people's children come to visit their elders, they feel uncomfortable.
2) Opposition from family members
It is difficult for the "DINK" couple to convince their family members, even Kang Hui is often urged by their family members.
The concept of the elderly is to get married and have children to continue the "incense", but the practice of the "DINK" couple has broken the concept of the elderly, so it is easy to have conflicts with family members or elders.
3) The marriage is not strong enough
Having a child is not only a continuation of the "incense", but also the crystallization of love between husband and wife.
Having children will strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, and a couple with children is more like a family. Both parties will have a common goal, and this goal is the future life of the child.
end
"DINK" sounds like a very trendy word, but in fact there is a lot of helplessness, especially after the age of 40, when I see my friends and family of three very happy, I will always feel empty in my heart, and when facing my parents, I always just feel helpless. I can bow my head.
"DINK" will make you live a chic life before the age of 40, but having children will make you happy all your life.
Today's topic: What do you think of the "DINK" family?