The bride's request to get off the car failed, and threatened not to get married, the groom turned around and left, and the bride sat embarrassed in the car

Romain Rolland once said: "Marriage is a combination of mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual concession." Once you decide to enter a marriage, you must be loyal and respectful to each other, otherwise you will be chaotic at the beginning, and will inevitably part ways in the end. A pair of young couples in Jiangsu had a conflict during the wedding, and it is unknown whether they can continue in the future.

The bride price is too small, and the man does not pay attention to it?

Xiaoli and Awei are a young couple, both of them work in Suzhou. Xiaoli is beautiful, and Awei falls in love with her at first sight. The two came together smoothly.

When young people fall in love, every minute is beautiful. One day's absence is like three autumns. In order to be better together, they live together. Passionate men and women some things are unavoidable. If the measures are not in place, unexpected surprises will fall from the sky, and Xiao Li will be caught.

The two are eager to get married. Now that they have kids, get married. Xiao Li's parents hate steel. She was angry because her daughter was pregnant before marriage. She lost the price at her mother-in-law's house. She will suffer in the future.

However, Xiao Li is still in the stage of drinking enough water. I believe Ah Wei will not let her be wronged. But some things can be decided by Awei. When Ah Wei's parents learned that the woman was pregnant, they were so happy, they urged them to get the certificate, and took this comfort. They brought the dowry down to £30,000 again and again. They are convinced that Xiao Li is pregnant and can only marry their family.

Article 1042 of China's "Civil Code" clearly stipulates that arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are prohibited. It is forbidden to ask for property through marriage. So the betrothal gift is just a sincerity and a blessing from parents to their children. As long as the young couple live a happy life in the future, there is no need to let the sky-high betrothal gift ruin the harmony.

However, Xiao Li couldn't get used to the careful thinking of Ah Wei's parents. She didn't have to ask for hundreds of thousands of betrothal gifts, but 30,000 was far below the local average. Her parents were embarrassed to speak because she was pregnant before marriage. Marry her early. She could only complain to her best friend, who also felt injustice on her behalf, thinking that it was the man's parents who deliberately gave her the new daughter-in-law a slap in the face. So she came up with a plan.

Disembarkation ceremony sparks farce

In January this year, an auspicious day approaching the Spring Festival, it was a big day for Xiaoli and Awei. In order to support the scene, Awei's family rented a few luxury cars to welcome their relatives. Awei believed that he had given Xiaoli enough face and paid enough attention to her.

But when the bride was taken to the hotel and was about to take her off the bus, Xiao Li was unwilling to get off the bus. Xiao Li hesitated for a long time before she explained her request, that is, to get 88,000 alighting gifts, otherwise she would not get married. It turned out that this was the plan of her best friend.

Ah Wei didn't know that in order to make such a foolish thing suddenly, all the guests were watching, and he couldn't get off the stage. Wedding is the most important happy event in life. Everyone wants to go smoothly. If something goes wrong, it will be laughed at, so he joked: "After getting married, I will not be yours in the future. ."

It is also true that both of them have obtained the certificate and are legally legal husband and wife. The money is given after marriage and also belongs to the joint property after marriage, but the left pocket goes out and the right pocket goes in. Doesn't Lily know this? Of course she knew that, so what she wanted was actually the attitude of the man, to let the man's parents know that she was not easy to bully.

However, men and women think differently. Ah Wei couldn't understand her operation and felt that it was unnecessary, which also exposed the hidden contradictions between the two of them in getting along. Seeing his hilarious smile, Xiaoli suddenly got angry and shouted, "If you don't see the money, you won't get out of the car."

Where did Ah Wei look for this much money for a while, and seeing the guests' faces looking at jokes, he was also upset. He said angrily: "Where did you come from, you can go back to where you are, this marriage will not end." After speaking, he threw his hands away, leaving only a back. Xiao Li didn't expect him to be so impatient, and the scene suddenly became embarrassing. She collapsed and cried in the car, and a good wedding turned into a farce.

The thinking behind the farce

In fact, it's not difficult to understand Ah Wei's anger. Judging from Xiao Li's bridal dress, both families are not poor, so both of them must have paid a lot for this wedding. He felt that he valued the bride. After all, it was their husband and wife who were going to live together in the future, so he couldn't understand his wife's grievance, or was unwilling to understand his wife's unwillingness.

This kind of contradiction may not exist in their cohabitation life, but love is a matter of two people. People immersed in romance automatically ignore this, but marriage is a matter of two families. Family relationships are more complicated than love relationships. If not handled properly, there will be endless trouble.

Xiao Li did this before the wedding, which had no effect except to embarrass the men and ruin their good memories. This man will not respect her because of this, but will only feel that she does not know general etiquette, which intensifies the conflict between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The "Civil Code" clearly states in the chapter "Marriage and Family" that families should establish a good family style, promote family virtues, and attach importance to the construction of family civilization. Husbands and wives should be loyal to each other, respect each other, and care for each other; family members should love each other, help each other, and maintain an equal, harmonious and civilized marriage and family relationship.

In fact, when Xiao Li felt her mother-in-law's contempt, she should discuss it with Ah Wei in time. Regardless of the outcome, she at least made her stand. If the other party doesn't give her the respect she deserves, even if she is pregnant, she can still live freely.

And when Ah Wei is handling the "getting off ceremony", if he can put his face aside, calm down, and communicate well. Just like Xiaoli's statement later, in fact, as long as the man gives a red envelope symbolically to show his importance, she will not be overly concerned.

What this marriage lacks is not love, but understanding and communication. If this problem is not solved, even if the wedding of the two continues, the future will inevitably be a mess.