Daughter is isolated when she goes to school with a brand-name schoolbag
Many parents with good family conditions pay special attention to cultivating their low-key and simple behavior and consumption habits when their children are young. But even though it has been deliberately low-key, sometimes people will be noticed because of some unintentional actions.
Daughter carries tens of thousands of schoolbags to school and is isolated by classmates
Xiaofeng and her husband worked hard together as soon as they came out of college. Now they have their own company and their annual income is very considerable. Seeing that their daughter has reached the age of kindergarten, many relatives and friends recommended them to choose the noble kindergarten, saying that the teaching conditions there are superior, and the parents behind each child are either rich or expensive, which can help the couple accumulate contacts in their careers.
But after thinking about it, the couple finally chose to let their daughter go to an ordinary kindergarten. Although the infrastructure and teachers in the school are not as good as those of noble kindergartens, the advantage is that the interpersonal relationship is simple, and children can grow up in a simple environment.
On Monday, because the couple needed to have a morning meeting, they got up early to send their daughter to kindergarten. In a hurry, the two put on the Gucci schoolbag they carried on the weekend for their daughter. After the two sent their daughter to kindergarten, they rushed to the company. After the meeting, Xiaofeng saw that the teacher had specifically @ her in the parent group, and attached a photo of her daughter's schoolbag to remind her not to let her daughter bring valuables into the kindergarten in the future.
Since that day, the daughter said that the children she played with had alienated her. Xiaofeng and his wife later found out that it was because their daughter was carrying an expensive schoolbag to school. Other parents were worried that their children would be playing with their daughter and damage her belongings, and they all told them to stay away from their daughters.
analyze:
Although buying valuable personal items for children is also a reflection of parents' care and attention to their children, but many times they will do bad things with good intentions. For example, the precious schoolbag that Xiaofeng and his wife bought for their daughter may not know the value of the schoolbag herself, nor do other children, but parents are aware of it. So in the end, the daughter was isolated.
There is a common sense of jealousy in society. Although kindergartens cannot be called "society", the parents behind the children are already based in society. Even if the family conditions are good, parents should avoid letting their children "show their wealth", otherwise it will not only affect the children's interpersonal relationships, but also may be targeted by bad people.
Parents should pay attention to these two points:
Purchases on children's personal belongings go the civilian route
Children are still in a stage of rapid growth. Taking the civilian route to buy personal items for children can on the one hand cultivate children’s good habits of being diligent and thrifty since childhood. , putting both families in an embarrassing situation.
Let the children not deliberately show off the family situation
Children from wealthy families, who have lived a relatively prosperous life since childhood, may feel that they are different from others and are superior. This is not only detrimental to the children's personal growth, but also has drawbacks to their interpersonal relationships in the future. Parents should tell their children not to show off their family situation deliberately, and to get along with friends equally and respectfully.
Message: Diligence and thrift start from dolls
As the saying goes, "From thrift to extravagance is easy, from extravagance to thrift is difficult", so it is very necessary to let the baby form a thrifty consumption habit from an early age. Only in this way can children appreciate the hard-won happiness of living today and cherish what they have more.