A bride in Jiangsu listened to her parents and asked for an 88,000 alighting ceremony.
There is no standard answer to such a question as to whether or not the "bringing gift" should be given and how much it should be given. Article 1042 of the Civil Code stipulates that "it is forbidden to ask for property through marriage", but it does not say that the dowry gift is prohibited.
This regulation is essentially a prohibition on buying and selling marriages, or using marriage as an excuse to ask for "astronomical betrothal gifts". After all, betrothal gifts are traditional folk customs. When talking about marriage, the man voluntarily pays the woman a gift that does not exceed his ability according to folk customs. , within the acceptable range, the law does not interfere.
From the perspective of the woman's family, raising her daughter like a baby, marrying to another family, having children, and doing housework, it is not too much to ask for a betrothal gift. From the betrothal gift, you can see how sincere the husband's family is and how much economic strength is, the betrothal gift is also It can be used for husband and wife to live together after marriage. Besides, whoever is looking for a son-in-law should not choose one. Personality can be pretended, but money is a real thing, and it cannot be faked.
However, if you look at the bride price from a different angle, the nature of the bride price will be different, especially in some areas where sky-high bride price gifts are prevalent, and most families with sons worry about bride price gifts. It is precisely because the two sides have different positions and different perspectives on the issue that there are often disputes among the people over the bride price, and many people have gone to court for this.
On January 8, 2022, according to netizens, in Suzhou, Jiangsu, a newlywed couple broke up on the wedding day because of the alighting ceremony. Where to go, what should have been a festive wedding instantly turned into an ugly farce. The direct fuse was that the bride asked the groom for a "getting off ceremony" of 88,000 yuan before getting off the bus.
Combining the content of the video and the insider's narration, this is another contradiction caused by the failure to negotiate the bride price together. Although the cause and effect of the matter are not complicated, it is not easy to draw conclusions about who is right or wrong, because the bride price is only a superficial reason, which really makes the wedding trouble. The most ugly thing is the person himself. From the video, we can see that the man's condition should be good. The car to pick up the relatives and the hotel chosen for the wedding are all good.
On the same day, the bride took the car to the door of the hotel, and then according to the procedure, the groom should pick her up and get off. Then the two completed the ceremony in the presence of everyone, and promised each other that they would love each other forever, no matter what happened, they would share weal and woe, but The bride seemed to have something on her mind, and there was no smile on her face. When the groom was about to get off the bus, he suggested that he must give 80,000 to the alighting ceremony, otherwise he would not get off.
The request for such a "temporary increase" is definitely not a sudden idea, but a plan for a long time, but the groom obviously has no psychological preparation for this, and he was stunned in place after hearing it. Being watched by the people around him, the groom just wanted to settle the matter as soon as possible. His solution was not to agree to the bride's request, but to coax her to get out of the car as soon as possible, and wait until the wedding is over for anything else.
However, the bride didn't lose her temper for a while, she thought it through, and naturally refused to agree easily. The 88,000 alighting ceremony was not a small sum. The bride's future mother-in-law is relatively strong. If she doesn't have it, she won't. Let her son figure it out. The groom's attitude is very firm, and the 80,008 alighting ceremony cannot be missed.
No matter what the groom asks, the bride insists, which naturally becomes a threat in the eyes of the groom. In this way, the groom and the bride fail to negotiate, and anger suddenly rises. Go back where you came from!
Seeing the groom leaving, the bride also felt very aggrieved and burst into tears in an instant. In fact, most people know after a little thought that it is not a rational approach to "temporarily increase the price" without warning in matters such as marriage. Contradictions and hidden dangers, or the wedding will not go on directly, just like the couple in Suzhou.
Therefore, many netizens have accused the bride of being too hypocritical and greedy, and she must be honest when doing business. How can anyone use this method to coerce the man to give money on the wedding day? However, at the same time, there were also people who stood on the bride's side and expressed their injustice. It turned out that the bride was pregnant at the time, and it was not surprising to get married while pregnant.
The bride met the groom when they were working in Suzhou, and the two fell in love freely. After meeting their parents, the man persuaded the woman to live together. The woman agreed to this matter in order to save rent, probably because of protection Because the measures were not in place, the woman soon found out that she was pregnant, and now the two parents had to sit together to discuss the matter of getting them married quickly.
The woman wants to get married before she is pregnant, and the dowry gift that should be discussed is given according to the custom, but the parents of the man feel that since she is pregnant, why should she pay so much? , and finally agreed to 30,000 yuan. Perhaps because of the anger in his heart and the feeling that the man's family is too stingy and disrespectful to him, he asked his daughter to "temporarily increase the price" on the wedding day and ask for a drop-off ceremony of 88,000 yuan to make up for her face.
The bride listened to her parents' instructions, and heard from her best friend that she would pay more attention to the betrothal gift than her husband's family. Maybe she also wanted to test her status in the man's mind, so she refused to get off in the car on the wedding day and asked the groom to The gift money, I didn't expect that the groom would turn his head and leave if he didn't give a cent. The wedding would not go on, and both sides would suffer.