5 ways to control yourself when you are impulsive
When you're struggling with a bad mood, taking deep breaths is a great way to calm yourself down.
- Count from 1 to 10 or 100.
When angry, count to ten before speaking; if you are very angry, count to one hundred.
This method works very well. It can prolong the time before our anger erupts, allowing you to recognize and stop it early. Count slowly, no matter how many times you count, just give your blood pressure and heart rate the right amount of time to return to normal. Over time, the anger you stoke will subside.
- Distraction
Another great way to calm your mind is to distract yourself. When sadness and distress occur, avoiding certain objects, not thinking about them or forgetting about them can eliminate your worries. When the lingering anger is still there, you can relax the tense mood through sports, entertainment, walking and other activities; consciously changing the topic or doing some other distracting things can relieve the mood.
- Take a deep breath
When you're struggling with a bad mood, taking deep breaths is a great way to calm yourself down.
Breathing deeply helps produce a natural relaxation response. This response is caused by exhalation. When you exhale, your muscles usually relax. And with relaxation comes a bad mood. Some researchers have found that yoga can also help, which is also the effect of deep breathing. Listening to quiet music and muscle relaxation exercises can also help calm your emotions.
- Accept your anger
People who are good at categorizing their emotions are better able to understand and regulate their emotions. They think more deeply about their emotional experiences and are more sensitive to their causes and potential consequences.
Therefore, when they are angry, they can deal with negative emotions more quickly and effectively, and avoid those inefficient coping strategies, such as venting, drinking and so on.
- Write your anger down.
Or keeping a journal can make people slow down and think about how to deal with a problem. So what we did later was respond, not react.
This response is emotionally based and almost automatic. We often feel extra real emotionally, but it doesn't always make sense. When we respond, we choose how to respond. We consciously think about what we want to happen and how best to make it happen.