If you want your child to grow up to be promising, parents insist on '2 no matter what 3 are not used to', and it is more worry-free to bring the baby
Every parent hopes that their children will grow up to be promising, not necessarily because of their great achievements or high social status, but at least to become a person with correct three views and a sound mind. to face the challenges of life calmly.
However, if parents fall into parenting mistakes during the critical period of their children's growth, it is easy to have a negative impact on their children.
Excessive concern spoils children
Parents habitually regard their children as treasures in their hands, and Xiao Zhou and her husband are no exception. In order to make up for his childhood regrets, Xiao Zhou spoiled his daughter. The best thing in the family is for the only daughter, and the elders also respond to their children's needs.
Not long ago, my daughter saw her good friend signing up for a dance class, so she also shouted to go. Xiao Zhou, who loves her daughter, naturally took her daughter to pay the registration fee the next day. But no one thought that the child who had only attended two classes cried and shouted that his feet hurt, and he was unwilling to go to class again, and a few thousand yuan was wasted.
As time goes on, Xiao Zhou discovers that her daughter's shortcomings become more and more obvious: too selfish, her snacks and toys will never be separated from others; impolite, often angry with grandparents; .
Xiao Zhou is a little sad. He loves his daughter because he wants her to grow up healthy and happy, not because she wants to become a hopeless person. In fact, if you want your child to grow up and have a good future, parents insist on ''2 no matter what 3 is not used to'', so that it can be more worry-free to bring a baby.
What is ''two no matter''?
1. No matter what the child can do
Some things children can do by themselves, such as eating, dressing, cleaning up toys, etc. At this time, the help of parents will turn the child into a ''giant baby''. Therefore, parents should pay attention to cultivating children's hands-on ability, let him do something properly, let him experience independence and a sense of achievement, and let children grow up in happiness.
2. No matter the setbacks the child can bear
Some parents are worried that their children will be under too much pressure, which will affect their mental health, so they will tell their children: if you encounter difficulties, just ask your parents to solve them. But setbacks are also a very important course for a child's growth. When the level of setbacks is within the child's tolerance, let him digest and face it himself.
What is ''Three Unaccustomed''?
1. You can’t get used to avoiding lying
After making a mistake, lying in order to avoid responsibility is a very serious thing, which means that there is a gap in the child's moral concept, and parents must not be used to it. After discovering that a child is lying, parents should guide him to recognize his own mistakes, so that the child can become an honest and responsible person.
Second, do not follow the rules can not be used to
Sometimes, children are used to being free at home, and when they go out, there will be unruly situations, such as cutting the queue, stepping on public seats, etc. If a child does such a behavior, parents should stop it in time, and cannot let them play on the grounds of ''the child is still young''.
3. Not being polite and not getting used to it
Children who are not polite will not say hello when they see their elders, they will not thank them when they get help, and they will not apologize when they cause trouble to others. After all, such children cannot be recognized by others, and their future studies and work will be affected.
Summarize
To raise good children, parents need to make a certain amount of effort. No child is born perfect, and it is important for parents to find the right educational method.