These three sentences please parents but hurt their children. Many parents often talk about them.
Many parents often play some inappropriate jokes on their children. Many people call it "Chinese jokes." Saying some excessive words will have a serious impact on the child for a long time. Are these things you often say to your children? Come and see.
These 3 words that parents often say, comforting themselves but hurting their children, do you often say them?
Some adults often joke with their children, saying, "You are disobedient, your parents don't love you anymore! Throw you away!" Children are not mentally sound enough to tell whether their parents are joking, and they will think that their parents are If you really want to abandon yourself, some children will cry.
Parents also feel very happy to see this scene, and make fun of it. In fact, this is completely unacceptable. This kind of talk is too much, and it will give children the formation of their own parents who do not love themselves, and they are superfluous thoughts, which will leave a shadow on their hearts.
Some adults like to force their children to perform shows in front of relatives and friends , trying to show off their children. In fact, this kind of behavior is hurting the children's self-esteem.
Some children are more introverted and don't like to express themselves in front of the crowd, but parents force them to do things they don't want to do. In the long run, it will also affect the parent-child relationship between parents and children.
Some parents like to compare their own children with other children, and often say, "Look at how many points that kid from that family got on the test and what awards he won, and then look at you?" This kind of words comforts the parents. , but it greatly suppresses children's self-confidence, which will make them feel inferior, always feel that they are inferior to others, and their personality will become depressed.
How will these seemingly inadvertent words affect the child?
- It will make children feel inferior, autistic and cowardly.
Parents who suppress their children for a long time and compare them with others will lose their self-confidence and motivation to move forward.
- It will damage children's self-esteem and destroy family relationships.
If parents always force their children to obey their own wishes and impose their own preferences on their children, it will cause the children to have a strong rebellious psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of the children.
- It will make children lack love and lose trust in their parents.
Parents often express to their children the words "we don't want you anymore, we don't like you anymore", which will make children feel less loved at home and think they are worthless.
So, what should parents usually say to their children?
- Encourage and praise children often
When a child does something worthy of praise, parents should encourage the child a lot and give him self-confidence so that he can do better next time.
- Don't force your child to do things he doesn't like
When parents want their children to learn what to do, they should seek the child's wishes in advance and communicate with him well, instead of forcing him to do it with a coercive tone.
- Show love to your children
Parents should often express their love to their children, so that children can feel warmth and happiness in the family. Living in a loving family environment is conducive to the physical and mental growth of children.
These "Chinese jokes" are very harmful to children. If you are still doing this, please stop this behavior immediately and let your children grow up healthy and happy.