How to improve the bad temper of parents?
- Find the real problem
Don't be too quick to lose your temper when your child makes you angry. Instead, focus on the child and think about the reasons behind his unusual behavior. It is entirely possible that everything has a "cause". Is he unwell, in a bad mood, or just trying to get an adult's attention, or is the child simply not knowing the right way to do it? Then remind yourself to calm down and try to meet the needs behind him instead of amplifying his anger and negativity.
- Regularly reflect on your temper
When you find your temper is out of control, you need to reflect on it regularly. For example, find some key points, find out when you are most likely to get angry every day, get up after getting up, or come back from work one day? Find your most likely breakout point and remind you of your convergence point appropriately. Children can also be involved in the problem-solving process. By asking your child directly, you can make your child aware of their problems and find ways to improve.
- Reduce quarrels in marriage.
In a harmonious family atmosphere, both husband and wife must reach a consensus. For example, at the moment when they are most angry with each other during the quarrel, give each other a signal to stop and tell each other that I have reached the limit. Then walk away immediately to prevent the conflict from escalating, and tell the other person that signal. We'll talk about today's matter privately later. Don't argue in front of your children and set a bad example for them.
- Talk to your child about your emotions
When the behavior of the stranger bothers you, for example, you can openly discuss the mood at that moment with your child: "Look, Mom is so pissed right now! He cut the line while we were in line. Maybe he was in a hurry, so he could Discuss with me and get others to understand"...In this exchange, discuss with the child the processing of learning emotions.
- Create more outlets for emotions
Make time for yourself, go to the spa, rant with your best friend, watch a movie with your husband, exercise, participate in social activities, and even arrange a small trip for yourself when it helps. The arrangement of these activities is equivalent to creating various channels as vents for bad emotions. If you're in a calm mood, you won't focus your negative emotions on one point, and you won't get angry easily.
- Apologize and show affection after losing your temper.
If you lose your temper with your child, be sure to admit to your child afterwards that you lost self-control at that moment. Dad still loves him very much, and I feel sorry. Give him a big hug and let the child cool off with you. This is the process of the child re-accepting you, and it is also the process of you re-accepting yourself.
As a final reminder, any means of self-control can only be effective if it is based on a strong sense of self-change. In family education, parents should always remember that when they get angry, they lose. If parents are determined to change things, then this is what children learn.
Of course, it must be admitted that there are very few temperless people in the world, so don't expect yourself to be a perfect parent. People are mortals, and it is normal to lose their temper occasionally. The key is to grasp the "moderate" problem.