'One son and one daughter' is no longer the best combination, 'two sons' is happier, don't believe it
As a parent, one of the greatest wishes is to have both a ''military coat'' and a ''small padded jacket''. In the past, in the eyes of most parents, one son and one daughter was the best family combination, and the combination of two sons was not popular. However, the situation has changed a lot in recent years. The former is no longer the most ideal combination, and the latter's two sons are more sought after. Why?
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Aunt Li's family is a typical ''one son and one daughter'' combination. The two brothers and sisters have had a good relationship since childhood. The elder brother takes care of the younger sister, and the younger sister is considerate to the elder brother. The two children not only have a good relationship, but also study hard. Aunt Li and his wife are proud when they mention their baby, and feel that they are the happiest parents in the world.
Of course, raising two children is definitely not a small pressure in terms of expenses. If there are two daughters or two sons, the two children can still share some daily necessities or clothes, but Aunt Li's family has one son and one daughter, so they have to buy different things. However, watching the children grow up strong day by day, the husband and wife are happier than anything else, and it is worth it no matter how hard or tired they are.
In a twinkling of an eye, the children have reached the age of marriage. When the son-in-law is in love with his daughter, he has to go through the son's ''heavy examination'', and finally come together with his sweetheart. On the day her daughter got married, Ms. Li's tears couldn't stop flowing, her heart was full of reluctance, and her wife's eyes were red.
After her daughter got married, Ms. Li felt that the family was much more empty. In the past, the two children used to fight a lot, and they were still fighting to do housework after work, but now no one has robbed their son, but the family still feels uncomfortable. After her daughter got married, she also had a new life. Although she often called or sent gifts to care about Ms. Li and her husband, the old couple always felt troublesome for their daughter.
Why ''one son and one daughter'' is not the best combination?
1. It is difficult for two children to play together
Although there are many sisters, brothers and sisters with good feelings in life, due to the difference of gender, the hobbies and habits of the two are different after all. Generally speaking, boys are more playful, naughty, and like challenging games; girls are more soft, quiet, and sensitive and slender. Due to differences in gender and personality, two children may not play together even though they have a good relationship.
2. The cost is double
Some children's products can be used twice, but "one child and one girl" have different genders, clothes, toys, etc., all have to be re-purchased. Moreover, now that equality between men and women is emphasized, parents will try to be fair when treating their children, and they will not feel that their children do not need them just because they are daughters. This leads to the fact that the items of the two children cannot be shared, and the cost is relatively high.
3. Daughter grows up to marry
A son and a daughter accompanying their parents will naturally bring a lot of joy, but sooner or later the daughter will marry, and the family will no longer be the same as before. After her daughter gets married, she will have much less contact with her family. No matter how good the relationship is, she is not as close as before.
Compared with ''one son and one daughter'', ''two sons'' is happier, don't believe it
1. It is easier for two sons to play together
The two sons have more common topics. Because of the same gender, they often understand each other better whether they are young or growing up. Two people have a common language, it is easy to play together.
2. Two sons share items
Like clothes, toys, etc., two sons can share, parents ask them if they agree to share with older brothers and younger brothers, they generally will not refuse. Sharing clothes, toys and other items saves a lot of expenses and reduces the pressure on parents.
3. Two sons support each other
Now we pay attention to equality between men and women, but in general, men are still more likely to earn money to support their families. The two sons can support each other and digest any troubles together; in terms of supporting the family, the two do not delay in raising their own small family, and they can share the burden of taking care of their parents, so that they do not have to worry about it alone.