'Mom, I'll play for 3 more minutes', the three mothers answered differently, achieving a different life for their children
Children love to play, and the least they like is to do homework. When they were about to finish playing and start their homework, they felt reluctant to give up, so they begged their parents to play for a few more minutes. In this situation, as a parent, what would you do?
case
Bao's mother, Rongrong, has a 6-year-old son. The son is fine with everything, but he struggles with his homework and always begs to ''play for another 3 minutes''. Zhizi Mo Ruomu, where is his son's ''3 minutes'' only 3 minutes? The so-called 3 minutes is just a number. If he compromises himself, he can play until dawn.
For the child's request, Rongrong felt like a mirror in her heart, but she couldn't bear to refuse. Looking at the two tear stains hanging on her son's fair face, and listening to the soft and crying request, her old mother's heart was slowly shaking again, and she almost surrendered.
In the end, Rongrong resisted the request to let the child continue to play with her strong willpower. In order to let her son know the importance of homework and study, she went to buy some gift boxes that needed to be assembled and let the children assemble them. At first, the child thought it was a new game, and it was a joy to assemble it, but after completing a few, he was tired and looked like he was unlovable.
The son told Rongrong that he did not want to assemble it, and Rongrong said solemnly: ''No, it must be finished. ''The child could not help crying. At this time, Rongrong said to him: ''If you don't study hard, you can only go to the workshop to be an assembly worker in the future. There is no distinction between high and low in the industry, but my mother hopes that you have more choices. ''The child was ignorant, but he didn't slack off on homework after that.
analyze
''Mom, let me play for another 3 minutes'' is a game between children's homework and play. Parents' answer may be a simple sentence, but the impact on children is related to life. The parent's answer is related to the child's future.
Three kinds of parents have different answers, and achieve different children's lives
The first: ''Go play, don't bother me''
Such an answer from the parents will cause the child to become more and more playful. Children are naturally playful, have poor self-discipline, and need parental discipline. Such a response is undoubtedly telling the child, ''Just play whenever you want, it doesn't matter''.
Children who grow up like this have poor self-discipline, poor academic performance, easy to play with things and lose their minds, miss opportunities for promotion and development because they are addicted to play, and have no motivation to meet challenges.
The second type: ''No, play after finishing the homework''
Such an answer can prevent the child from repeatedly proposing ''play for 3 more minutes'', and can also let the child learn to restrain the desire to play, learn self-discipline, and know how to reasonably arrange the time for study and play.
However, this also has a disadvantage. Some children will have a rebellious mood because of being rejected by their parents, which will make them even more disgusted and disgusted with homework.
The third type: ''Be sure to write after 3 minutes, you can't go back''
Parents will worry that their children will lose their minds after playing for a few minutes, but this is not necessarily the case. We might as well use ''play for another 3 minutes'' to make an appointment with the children and supervise them to switch to homework after 3 minutes, otherwise they will be punished. In this way, children can be satisfied and feel that they have taken advantage of them; it can also cultivate children's contract spirit and let them learn to abide by their promises.
Does your child like to do homework? A little advice for parents
Explain to the child the meaning of homework and study. Like Rongrong in the case, the child can have a personal experience.
Make an agreement with the child, such as ''play for another 3 minutes, and then do homework'' or ''you can watch TV for 15 minutes after finishing the homework'', and give the child appropriate rewards.
Take children to make plans for learning and play and strictly abide by them, so as to cultivate children's self-discipline.