Zheng Yuanjie to his parents: If you want to destroy a child, let him make a fool of himself in public
From birth, children are independent individuals, and even parents do not violate their right to dignity. But many parents disapprove of it, not only beating and scolding their children wantonly, but even trampling their children's dignity on the ground in public without feeling that their behavior is inappropriate.
The 11-year-old boy was stripped in public for talking back. Should he be a child, should his dignity be hurt?
This incident happened in Chongqing. An 11-year-old boy did not finish his homework. The teacher and his mother reported the situation. The mother was very angry, and she acted very aggressively. On the way to pick up the child from school, she kept scolding the child, and even before she got home, she punished the child on the bus.
The mother did not stop her criticism after taking the baby on the bus. The little boy resisted a few words, and she was even more angry. In front of everyone, she frantically took off the child's clothes and pants. The 11-year-old boy was only left with a pair of socks and a pair of trousers.
The matter is not over yet. After letting go of her anger, the mother left the child and got out of the car alone. The little boy stood naked by himself, and the passengers beside him were talking a lot, but one could imagine how shameful and helpless he was in his heart. In the end, the little boy sat all the way to the terminal. The police arrived after receiving the alarm from the enthusiast and sent him home.
Perhaps in the eyes of some parents, it is not a big deal to let a child make a fool of himself in public, ''Isn't it a child, what can I be embarrassed about'', but on the contrary, the child's mind is very sensitive and fragile. The hurts they suffered in childhood are often unforgettable for the rest of their lives, let alone being humiliated in public.
Popular comments from netizens
''If I were this kid, I could hate mom for the rest of my life. ''
''Does the little boy dare to take the bus in the future? There is definitely a shadow in the mind. ''
''When the child is young, don't you have to take care of face? He is your child and an independent person. It is really shameful for this mother to trample on the child's self-esteem. ''
Destroying a child, humiliating him in public is enough
The fairy tale king Zheng Yuanjie once said:
''How to ruin a child? You can make him feel that he can't do anything, stimulate him with people who are 'better than him', keep hitting him, and don't give him any freedom of choice... Finally, compared to the previous ones, destroy the child's 'killer' Or 'the ugly of children in public'. Destroying him in front of everyone, belittling him, making him embarrassed in public, and shameless , then he will feel ashamed and afraid of society. ''
It's not wrong for parents to have a heart for their children, but it is a big mistake to educate their children in a way of ''make him embarrassed in public''. If you make a child embarrassed in public, you think that you are promoting your authority and teaching your child a lesson, but you are actually crushing the child's self-esteem and destroying him.
Children make mistakes, what should parents do?
1. Make your own rules
Parents are accustomed to setting limits for their children, but forget to set limits for themselves as parents. In order to avoid making inappropriate actions when educating children, parents must set a bottom line for themselves, such as drinking a glass of water to calm down when they are angry, such as not scolding their children in public.
2. ''Join three chapters'' with children
There are no rules, no circle, and children have no rules to refer to, and they are more likely to make behaviors that make parents angry. Parents can agree with their children what they can't do and what punishment they will accept if they do. Let your child follow the rules and be more sensible when it comes to punishing the wrong child yourself.
3. Master the correct method of criticism
Parents need to figure out whether they want their children to know their mistakes and correct them, or do they want to be quick and express their negative emotions at their children? After figuring it out, parents criticize their children. Criticism is actually a process of communication. Parents should give their children the right to speak, and both parties should express their views clearly and communicate with each other. Only in this way is effective education.