These three kinds of fathers are 'negative energy' in the family. Most of the children are useless. No matter how good the mother is, it is useless.
The role of the father plays a pivotal role in the development of a child. Dads can have a certain influence on a child's character and behavior. This effect can be positive or negative, depending on how dad behaves and practices at home.
There is a ''negative energy'' father at home, and most of the children are not promising
In the eyes of her colleagues, Xiao Zhou is a selfish and withdrawn girl. She never shares snacks with people in the office. Every time she spends together, she seems to be very preoccupied with it, and she seldom participates in AA-style dinners. Because of this, the relationship between Xiao Zhou and his colleagues has not been very good, and he can't wait for the opportunity to be promoted after working for many years.
In fact, there is a reason for the development of Xiao Zhou's character. During his adolescence, Xiao Zhou also wanted to be like his friends, entertaining guests, shopping, and gathering often. But Xiao Zhou's father never allowed her to spend money and time on socializing. Not only did he not give Xiao Zhou pocket money, but he even forcibly did not allow her to go out, resulting in fewer and fewer friends of Xiao Zhou.
Every time Xiao Zhou asked her father for living expenses, she would be scolded ''losing money'', which made her feel more and more inferior and withdrawn.
These 3 kinds of fathers are ''negative energy'' in the family. No matter how good the mother is, most of the children will not be great.
1. Excessive calculation of property and gains and losses
Some fathers will create a growing environment for their children in which it is hard for adults to make money, and children have to feel guilty for spending money. Ask your child to go back when they grow up. Children who grow up in this environment will also become preoccupied, stingy and selfish.
Second, shirk responsibility
''Go to your mother'' is the mantra of many fathers. In their eyes, taking care of children is not their responsibility. They will let mothers bear all the pressure of parenting. If the child is injured or fails in school, this type of father will put all the blame on the mother, blaming the mother for not taking care of the child well.
3. Masculinity
The macho dad will ask the mother and child to obey their commands unconditionally and not allow others to resist and speak their minds. This kind of ''feudal'' thinking will make family members feel endless pressure. When children grow up, they often think that women must have "three obedience and four virtues", otherwise they need to be cast aside.
What is a ''positive energy'' dad like?
1. Responsible
''Positive' fathers will take the initiative to take responsibility for the family, they will do housework with their mothers, and participate in the small and large matters of parenting. Responsible fathers can teach their children what responsibility is and play a pivotal role in the development of their children's character.
2. Be a role model for children
Children have a natural adoration for the role of their father, and they will think that their father is an omnipotent ''superman''. The father is usually the person the boy wants to be in the future, and is also the standard for the future mate selection of the girl. A father who can be a role model for his children is a good father with ''positive energy''.
''Widowed'' education is not desirable
The most obvious feature of the so-called "widowed education" is that the child's father is constantly absent from the child's growth and education, leaving the mother to bear all the pressure. This not only affects the child's character formation, but also makes the family discord.
Dads should spend more time with their children and find the right way to raise their children together with their mothers, instead of being a ''hands-off shopkeeper'' who ignores the children's affairs.