Professor Li Meijin: When children talk back, parents learn to say these 3 words, children will benefit for a lifetime
When children do something wrong and are reprimanded by their parents, some children will be silent and listen to their parents silently; Parents are very distressed when their children talk back, and some grumpy parents may even quarrel with their children. In any case, the matter of the child talking back is still worthy of parents' attention, and it is related to the child's future.
case
Bao's mother Xiaorou is very irritable, because she finds that her 5-year-old son is becoming more and more ''rebellious'', and the most prominent one is that she likes to talk back. Usually when Xiaorou says one sentence, her son can say ten sentences back. This ''little gangster'' can make her angry enough.
Once, Xiaorou wanted to exercise her child's ability to do housework after eating, so she asked her son to clean up the leftovers and put the dishes and chopsticks in the sink. Unexpectedly, the child was not happy and said: ''Don't you have a hand? ''Hearing this, Xiao Rou couldn't believe it, and anger was inevitable in her heart.
Xiaorou couldn't help but say to the child: ''Let you do housework for your own good, why are you becoming more and more disobedient? '' After hearing this, my son shouted: ''Why let me do what you don't want to do? ! ''After he finished speaking, he went back to the room.
Similar things happened more than once, so Xiaorou was also a little tired, so one day she complained to her husband: ''The child next door is obedient and diligent, not like ours, it made me mad. ''Unexpectedly, the son heard this, and the son said unceremoniously: ''If you have the ability, let him be your son! ''Seeing the child's reaction, Xiaorou felt helpless, why did the child rebel?
Children talking back is not necessarily a bad thing
The situation of children talking back to their parents has occurred in many families. Whenever they talk back, the parents are often very angry, and even want to beat the baby. In fact, it's not all bad for kids to talk back. First, children dare to confront their parents'', which means they have a certain amount of courage and will not be bullied outside; second, they begin to have their own ideas, so they will say ''no' to some of their parents' requirements. '.
Children talk back, don't get used to it
Although it has a certain positive meaning for children to talk back, parents should not be too accustomed to it. Professor Li Meijin once said: ''Parents should not be too obedient to their children, because most of the 'rebellious children' are 'favored' by their parents. ''
So, what should parents do when their children talk back? On this topic, Professor Li Meijin gave parents some tips. If parents grasp it well, children will benefit for a lifetime.
When children talk back, parents learn to say these 3 words, children will be better in the future
1. I know you're angry, but you shouldn't talk like this, I'll give you time to calm down and we'll talk about it later
When a child talks back, both parents and children are emotionally excited, which can easily escalate the conflict. Therefore, when a child talks back, parents should not rush to put the truth into their heads, but give themselves and their children a little time to calm down, and then the communication will be smoother.
2. You can express your emotions and thoughts directly, but don’t berate others
When children disagree with their parents, they may express it in a way of talking back. Although they vent their dissatisfaction, this is not an effective way of communication. The way to be truly emotionally intelligent is to replace berating others with expressing your own thoughts. For example, when a child goes out with other classmates, some classmates are slow to put on their shoes, and the child says: ''Are you a pig? You are so stupid that you can't wear shoes well. ''At this time, parents can guide their children to express their thoughts, such as: ''I'm in a hurry, can you put on shoes faster? ''
3. Baby, we are going out in three minutes, which pair of shoes do you want to wear?
The family is ready to go out, but the child is tantrums and refuses to leave. At this time, parents can tell him their plans in advance and give them some choices. This will make the child feel respected and have the freedom to choose, and it will be easier for the child to accept the parent's proposal.