Why are more and more children taking their mother's surname?

We all know that a person's name is a combination of a surname and a first name. Generally speaking, the child's name is decided by the parents together, and the surname is directly inherited from the man's surname.

For this tradition, many mothers tacitly accept it without any objection. But with the advancement of people's ideas, some women began to ask their children to have their surnames.

In the concept of the older generation, only under certain circumstances, the child will take the mother's surname, for example: the man is recruited by the woman, the woman is more powerful than the man, etc. Either way, it will cause the man to be looked down upon.

Therefore, it is difficult for the older generation to accept the request of the child to take the mother's surname.

In recent years, this situation has changed significantly. Many young couples choose to let their children take their mother's surname after they get married and have children.

In this regard, some people think that the social status of men is declining, is this really true? Let's hear what the two dads have to say.

• out of respect for the wife

At the end of last year, Mr. Chen's wife gave birth to a pair of twin boys in the hospital, and the mother and child were safe.

Hearing the news, the whole family was very excited, especially the two elderly people in the family, who wrote happiness on their faces every time they looked at their children. After all, twins can be met by chance, and it is a kind of fate to meet them.

However, this harmonious and happy atmosphere did not last long, and the two elderly people soon began to argue over the naming of the child.

At first, Mr. Chen and his wife would comfort the two old people together, telling them that they can do it by themselves and they don't have to bother about naming them.

But gradually, as the attitude of the two old men became more and more firm and their tone became stronger, the wife began to give up the idea of ​​persuasion.

Not only that, Mr. Chen also clearly noticed that his wife's mood was getting lower and lower, and sometimes even secretly wiped her tears.

In order to solve the problem, Mr. Chen decided to have a good talk with his wife.

When talking about the child's name, Mr. Chen asked his wife: ''What do you think we should name the child? ''

What Mr. Chen didn't expect was that this question directly ignited his wife's emotions. She suddenly changed her temperament and shouted at Mr. Chen: "You are only concerned with naming your children, someone has thought about my feelings." ? ''

After listening to his wife's words, Mr. Chen did not speak again, and the two never raised the relevant questions,

A few days later, Mr. Chen's parents brought up the name again when they visited the child in the hospital. This time, Mr. Chen did not persuade them, but told them that it was up to her to decide what name the child should take with his wife.

Later, Mr. Chen said frankly: ''It is not easy for a wife to give birth to two children. In the future, she will have to nurture them to grow up. Let the two children follow her surname, so that the children can know that their mother has paid a lot for them, which is a tribute to her hard work. a kind of respect. ''

• Let the child have a nice name

Some time ago, after giving birth to a child, a couple also decided to let the child take the mother's surname.

At first, many relatives and friends expressed their incomprehension, because the woman's temperament has always been gentle, and there is no forceful situation.

In this regard, the father gave an explanation. It turned out that the husband and wife liked the word ''Wan'' very much, because ''Wan'' means softness and love, so it is better to give this name to the newborn daughter.

However, because the father's surname is ''Fan'', if the daughter is allowed to follow the father's surname, then the child's name will be ''Fan Wan'', which is homophonic with ''rice bowl'', resulting in a lack of aesthetics in the name.

Therefore, after thinking it over and over again, the couple decided to let the child follow the mother's surname and name it ''Lin Wan''.

write at the end

In today's open-minded era, it is not uncommon for children to take their mother's surname, and people will not assume that the man's status in the family is inferior to that of the woman just because the child takes his mother's surname.

A name is the first gift a parent gives to a child, and the emotion it contains and the impact it has on them in the future is often the most profound. Therefore, it is often more important to choose a good name than to struggle with the father's surname or the mother's surname.

Of course, for a second-child family, since there are two children in the family, the best way to deal with it is to let one child take the father's surname and the other take the mother's surname. In this way, not only will both husband and wife have no regrets, but also let the children understand that the hard work that parents put into them is equivalent.