The reason why 'grandmother' has become the main force with babies now, but no one cares about grandma, is very realistic

With the full liberalization of the two-child policy, more and more young couples are joining the ranks of the second child.

But it is undeniable that in today's fast-paced era, having two children will inevitably bring a lot of pressure. In order to relieve this pressure, many young couples choose to entrust their children to elders to take care of them.

Generally speaking, the distance between grandma and grandchildren will be closer, so the task of bringing children is often completed by grandma. But judging from the actual situation in recent years, many couples did not choose to let their grandmother take care of their children, but entrusted the children to their grandmothers to take care of them.

So, what are the reasons for young couples to make such a choice? We might as well listen to what Ms. Jiang has to say.

Three years ago, Ms. Jiang gave birth to a baby boy in the hospital. The news made her mother-in-law very happy. She hugged her grandson every day and was reluctant to let go. Seeing that the old man liked the child so much, the couple decided to let her raise the child after the child was weaned.

For this request, the old man not only agreed, but said excitedly: ''I will raise my little grandson to be fat and white. ''

Since then, Ms. Jiang and his wife have rarely had time to go back to their hometown to visit their children due to work.

It was more than half a year later that she saw the child again. Ms. Jiang missed the child very much and planned to hug him as soon as they met. But to Ms. Jiang's surprise, the child actually slapped her several times and smiled very happily.

In the process of getting along with her later, Ms. Jiang found that the child has developed many bad behavior habits, such as: smashing toys when in a bad mood, refusing to eat without seeing the dishes she likes to eat, etc.

After some observation, Ms. Jiang realized that the child's arrogant temperament was accustomed to his grandmother.

For the sake of the child's future growth, the couple decided to take the child back to their side for personal discipline.

At the beginning of this year, Ms. Jiang gave birth to her second child successfully, but this time, she plans to entrust the child to her mother, the child's grandmother, to take care of her.

In fact, it is not just Ms. Jiang, many young couples will choose to give their children to their grandmothers to take care of them when they lack the energy to take care of their children. So what are the young couples thinking about?

The reason why grandma became the main force with baby

• Avoid children being spoiled by grandma

After all, the child is the grandson and granddaughter of the grandmother. If he can stand out and do a lot in the future, then he will also have a bright face as a direct elder. Therefore, even if the grandmother knows that the child is doing something wrong, she will choose to accommodate them.

But in fact, this behavior of allowing children to make mistakes is not tolerance, but connivance. In the eyes of the child, grandma's indulgence is an affirmation of bad behavior, which will inevitably lead to the child's temperament becoming more and more naughty.

In contrast, this is generally not the case when children are brought up by grandmothers. Although there is a certain blood relationship between the grandmother and the child, due to the limited time spent together, there is no need to worry too much when educating the child.

Therefore, if the grandmother takes the child, it can timely detect and correct some bad behaviors and habits of the child, so as to ensure that the child can grow and develop in the right direction.

• Avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

There is a large age gap between young couples and elders, and it is normal for them to have different ideas about educating children.

There is no blood relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is often difficult to empathize and understand each other. If the grandmother takes care of the children, once there are differences in educational concepts, disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are likely to occur, and even affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, causing unnecessary conflicts.

In contrast, since grandma and mother belong to a mother-daughter relationship, they are able to ''make big things small and small things small''.

In the process of raising children, even if there is a difference in concept between mother and daughter, it will generally not lead to quarrels, and it will not lead to deterioration of the relationship.

write at the end

Children are the mediators of family atmosphere. They can not only enhance the relationship between husband and wife, but also shorten the distance between children and elders.

In fact, no matter which elder takes care of the child, it is an extra burden for the elders. If any unexpected situation occurs during this period, the relationship between elders and children may be affected.

Therefore, couples raise their children by themselves as far as possible. If you are really lacking in energy, you should first seek the advice of the elders and inform the elders of relevant matters when entrusting them to the elders.

Finally, regardless of whether the elders discipline their children or not, the couple should thank the elders for their efforts during this period. In this way, young couples can use the child as a bridge to enhance the connection with their elders and create a harmonious and warm family environment for the child's future growth.