Does a second-child family really exist ''not partial''? 3 Tell the truth to your parents

In a parenting program, the issue of ''eccentricity'' in families with two children was specifically discussed. The three pairs of parents interviewed told the truth one after another. Human nature cannot be challenged, and there is indeed a problem of favoritism towards their two children. In addition to their frank words, we can see that this is really a common phenomenon in many second-child families.

The problem of favoritism is one of the main sources of family conflicts in a second-child family, and it is also a time bomb for the child's spiritual growth. This is extremely bad for the healthy growth of the family and children. Therefore, parents should think carefully about how to level the bowl.

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One parent in the interview said that the eldest child in the family once ran away from home during a typhoon. At that time, in order to find him, the two searched everywhere in the violent storm, and were almost hit by a fallen tree branch. Fortunately, in the end, the child was found safe and sound by the police and sent home, while the two of them only had some skin injuries.

However, the thunderstorm in the typhoon weather was extremely dangerous in the process, so the police gave them an ideological education on this. In the final questioning process, the child revealed that he ran away from home because he felt that his parents favored his younger brother. Only at this time did they realize the psychological damage caused by their usual thoughts and behaviors to their children, as well as the seriousness of the matter. At that time, they calmed the children's emotions through communication, but they were still very confused about the future and didn't know what to do and how to get along better with the two children.

Does a second-child family really exist ''not partial''? 3 Tell the truth to parents: Human nature cannot be challenged

1. Because of the habit of letting older children let small children

In the habitual thinking of parents, they always feel that the older children should let the younger ones, and they must unconditionally favor the weaker party. In fact, this is not the case. Even if it is humility, in the end, it should be the behavior of the children themselves, and the adults should not help them decide.

I usually teach my elder brother and younger brother to develop the habit of self-humility, and then what we encounter in life is to judge whether we need humility.

2. Like to praise one while criticizing one

Children often hear parents say, ''Look at your brother, look at you'', ''Look at your brother, look at you'', ''Look at other people's children''... When parents are performing one and criticizing the other at the same time, the child will be extremely unbalanced, and begin to feel that the parents will always see only others, that the parents are favoring them, that they will never be good, and so on. Therefore, it is wrong for parents to criticize and motivate in this way.

3. Get used to focusing on children you like more

Every parent has different preferences, some like lively and cheerful children, and some like quiet and introverted children. But every child is not born according to the preferences of the parents, they have their own characteristics. So when parents give their attention to the child they like, should they also pay attention to the other child? Every child needs the same love and attention, and parents should pay attention to how they feel.

Summarize

Parents know that children are physically weak, but don't forget that they are psychologically weaker and need the protection of love. Although it is difficult for them to understand the truth, every word and deed of their parents will convey information to them. So parents should pay attention to whether they give equal love to their children.

When you find that something can't be done well, at least explain the situation to the child at the moment, try to understand, and even let them make this choice on their own. In this way, the family will be more harmonious and the children can develop physically and mentally.