''No matter how rich you are, don't help your children to raise children'', the 70-year-old man choked up: the reason is very poignant and uncomfortable
foreword
Nowadays, with the rapid development of social economy, people earn more money than before, but their usual expenses are also increasing. For those young people who have just gotten married, the cost of living is even more astonishingly high. The two of them earn wages on weekdays, and they are thankful to be able to repay the mortgage and car loan. It is impossible to even think about having a child. of.
But children are coming after all. After many young couples have children, they have to work harder. If they don’t have free time to take care of their children, they can only ask their old parents to help them take care of them.
case
Grandma Li's son Xiao Li gave her a big fat grandson. But both Xiao Li and his wife are busy with their own work and do not have so much time to take care of their children, in order to be able to work steadfastly. So I brought Grandma Li to their house to live with them and help take care of the children.
Grandma Li felt that it was not easy for her daughter-in-law to marry out of town alone. She also treated her as her own daughter, and treated her baby with more care and attention. She made a lot of diapers for the child with cloth, but the daughter-in-law was not happy. The daughter-in-law thought that these diapers were not clean, and they were not good for the child, and could easily hurt the child's tender skin. Grandma Li didn't feel dirty very much, because they were all scalded with boiling water, disinfected and sterilized, and her son took care of him like this since he was a child.
Grandma Li carried her child behind her back when she was working, but her son and daughter-in-law felt it was very dangerous to do so, and gave her some lectures. And when brewing milk powder for the child, the daughter-in-law also thinks that it is not okay for Grandma Li to brew according to the number of marks on the bottle, and it is not okay to hold the baby like this when holding the child, so it is not right to hold Grandma Li. It made her completely unable to take care of children, as if she herself had never given birth to children and had no experience. And if I don't take care of the children, I can't justify my son's family. Every day I'm exhausted, my life is completely disrupted, and Grandma Li's life is extremely sad.
It was not until she took care of her child to go to primary school that Grandma Li felt liberated. Grandma Li sighed: This is simply a child born to me! No more children after this.
Should the elderly help take care of the children?
I don't think it should, for the following reasons:
1. The old man's body does not allow it
Once a person reaches old age, various problems will always break out in the body, not only the injuries left by overwork when young, but more importantly, the bones and muscles of the elderly are very fragile, and it is difficult to recover from bumps and bumps. Even if it can be recovered, it will take a long time.
2. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues
In family disputes, the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been unavoidable. It is often difficult to find that balance point between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which leads to the deterioration of the relationship between the two parties, which will only make the son in the middle not human on both sides. And it is also easy to intensify the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, making it more and more intense.
3. Different educational ideas
There are many points of conflict between the educational concepts of the older generation and the educational concepts of contemporary young people. After all, there is a generation gap between the two generations. Young people feel that the old people's ideas are pedantic and do not conform to the educational thinking of modern science, and they always do things based on old experience. And the old man felt that the young man was grinding and chirping, and it was not safe to do things, and he thought about things. Because the concepts of the two generations are different, it is inevitable that differences and contradictions will arise in the process of getting along, especially on the issue of raising children. The situation is universal.
But why should the elderly help their children to take care of their children without any regrets?
- Be able to help your children reduce the burden of living
Because today's society is developing rapidly, so for today's young people, their economic pressure is very great. Some elderly people often feel distressed about their children, so they choose to help their children take care of them, mainly because they want to help their children, and strive to reduce their children's burden, reduce pressure, and make their children's lives better.
- You can enjoy family happiness
Often some elderly people live alone all year round because their children are too busy with their work. After living alone for a long time, they will feel that life is very lonely, and they take care of their children and live with their children. Fill your lonely life with energy and color.