''I can't lift my head up without a son'', the father of 4 daughters expresses his difficulties, but he is helpless and angry

Human beings are social animals, and society needs a large division of labor to function and develop. Neighbors living together in groups will inevitably make some parents talk about their shortcomings.

I went back to my hometown last weekend and took my child to visit my parents. I met an acquaintance in the village at the entrance of the village and said hello. : ''Blessed are your parents, sons and daughters are so filial, and now they have added a big fat boy, and the family is prosperous! ''

I didn't know the situation, so I followed the response: ''Uncle, you are also very lucky, I heard my mother say that the four daughters have also come home to visit you. ''

However, after hearing my words, the other party's face immediately revealed some embarrassed and uncomfortable expressions, shook his head and whispered: "'Don't mention it, don't mention it...''

Later, I went to my parents' house, chatted after dinner, and talked about this matter, and then I learned the reason from my mother: ''He, he has always wanted a son, but he gave birth to four daughters, and was very discouraged Oh, there was a time when he refused to come out of the house, saying that he couldn't raise his head without having a son. I see him, even though he is in the midst of blessings, he doesn't know the blessings, and his four daughters are not all more filial than the other. ...''

This incident, to be honest, touched me a lot, so I wrote this article to share my thoughts with you.

One: Having a child and having a daughter is a treasure

In the past, the patriarchal society lasted for too long, and the social status of women was relatively low. This is one reason.

Another reason is that due to the differences in the abilities of men and women, boys have played a more important role in the development of many historical processes because of their superior physical ability.

It is not difficult to find that in general, the more backward the economic and cultural level is, the people who have lived there for a long time, most of them have remnants of high feudal ideology, and believe that there are males in the family, which is more supportive for the reproduction of the family. .

But now it's the 21st century, and there is a lot of evidence that women's social status is also rising, and ideas about equality between men and women are constantly being disseminated.

Therefore, whether it is a boy or a girl, it is a baby, and it is a happiness worth celebrating, and there should be no prejudicial definition.

Two: Subconscious ''sexism''

''Pondering sons over women'' is a proper feudal ideology. Don't believe it, there are still many people who are poisoned by this feudal ideology.

Even though we vigorously advocate equality between men and women, and parades are often held abroad, a concept has occupied people's minds for a long time, forming a deeply rooted influence.

Even if they verbally support equality between men and women and treat them equally, the gender discrimination factor is still subconsciously preserved.

The negative impact of this feudal and decadent ideological remnant in education is also two-sided. It not only makes the parents feel an inexplicable sense of inferiority, but also treats their children differently. It will also be deeply hurt. child's heart.

· Parents feel unable to lift their heads

Just like my neighbor, who has four filial daughters at home, but because he doesn’t have a son, he feels that he is inferior to others and can’t raise his head. This is a very strange thinking, but it is undeniable, and it brings pressure to the parents themselves. It is also unimaginable.

Some people attach great importance to this point, thinking that if they do not have a son, they will not be able to pass on their lineage, and they will have no one to care for in the future.

· Children are treated unfairly

If parents prefer sons to daughters, the ones who suffer the most are daughters, especially if they have a second child at home, it is easy to treat them differently.

Parents dote on their sons, but turn a blind eye to their daughters. This practice directly leads to girls' low self-esteem and introversion, or a serious rebellious mentality. And it will also make the much-loved boy arrogant and arrogant, and it is easy to develop an arrogant character, which is not conducive to the growth of the child.

Three: A letter to parents

The reason why there are two different genders, men and women, must have its natural laws.

In addition, girls also have many advantages, and girls can also be promising and talented. This does not produce different endings because of gender.

I can also understand the thoughts of my relative, because I live in a rural area and look forward to getting ahead. In addition, there are more or less men in the neighbors. I want a son so much, but I have four daughters in a row. , must be feeling resentful and unwilling.

This makes people feel helpless and regretful and can't help but feel resentment, and it's normal.

But I still hope that parents all over the world can put aside their corrupt and feudal thoughts and treat their children equally. Only in this way can the family be happy and happy, and can truly experience the joy of life.

It also advises parents not to discriminate against children in terms of gender or other aspects, and to know more about children and eliminate the gap between family relationships.