'I don't want to bring a baby to my daughter', the voice of a 70-year-old grandma expressed 'grandma's exclusive helplessness'

In today's fast-developing economy, most mothers have to go out to earn money to support their families. In this way, young children can only ask the elderly at home to help.

It has become a trend for the elderly to help their daughters and sons with babies. According to the data, more than 50% of them are grandmothers with babies, which is significantly higher than that of grandma.

"I don't want to bring a baby to my daughter", the voice of a 70-year-old grandma expressed "grandma's exclusive helplessness"

Case:

I saw a particularly popular saying on the Internet: "This is an era when grandma brought children. Mom gave birth to grandma to raise, dad went online when he got home, and grandparents came to watch."

Grandma Liu is 70 years old this year, but she also came to help her youngest daughter to take care of the child. It's not that my grandmother is putting on a good retirement life, but because she loves her daughter .

My daughter is still young, and it's the right time to fight for her career. She doesn't help to take care of her children. Inside and out, it's her daughter who suffers. Grandma Liu said: "Even if my daughter becomes a mother, she will always be a child in my eyes . As long as she is by my side, I will do my best to help her and take care of her.

But Grandma Liu is getting old, and she seems powerless in many places. She doesn't know how to use electronic products. The child's 100,000 why and strange toys have already overwhelmed the elderly. In addition, the two generations have different parenting concepts. How much she wanted to share the fatigue for her daughter, she even exhausted everything.

In the end, Grandma Liu was deeply despised, and her heart was often filled with grief and helplessness. She often expressed her apology to those around her, "I'm old and useless, and I can't help my daughter...".

Grandma Liu expressed how many unspeakable grievances in "grandma" heart. I wanted to take advantage of my strong muscles and bones to play the heat and share the burden for my daughter and son-in-law, but I didn't expect that I would become a troublemaker in the end.

Under such circumstances, the elderly will naturally feel cold and unwilling to bring children.

There are the following three types of grandma who are not suitable to help with children

1. Unhealthy grandmother

Taking care of a child is not an easy task. From birth to the process of sitting, crawling and walking, adults need to take care of it. There are also a series of problems with eating and urinating, which will make people unable to eat well and sleep. Well, many young people can't bear it, not to mention the elderly and the elderly who are not in good health. If the elderly are not in good health, the elderly will be in worse health, so it is not suitable for taking children.

2. Grandma who is not in harmony with her daughter and son-in-law

Nowadays, young people advocate scientific parenting and like to collect various parenting classics on the Internet. It is understandable that parents always want to give their children the best way of parenting and education.

If the daughter and son-in-law are impatient to communicate with the elderly about parenting methods, but blindly complain about estrangement and contradictions, it will make everyone unhappy together. In fact, the elderly will secretly learn the skills of raising babies, they will change the tricks to make delicious food, and they will feel guilty for making a little mistake.

In order to avoid the inappropriate behavior of taking care of children, the younger generation can cite some parenting books, parenting knowledge to learn with the elderly. Sometimes seniors just don't know, or don't know what to do, so they make mistakes.

In this regard, young parents can exchange more experience with the elderly with children at home, so that they can also apply what they have learned and raise their grandchildren with advanced educational awareness. The elderly can also often exchange their experiences with relatives and friends in the community. Finally, they realize that the children born after 10 should be raised in this way.

3. Superstitious grandmothers are not suitable for bringing children

Because of the lack of knowledge and experience, some elderly people are also superstitious about the local recipes in their hometown or superstitious about gods and Buddhas. When a child is sick, he does not go to the hospital to see a doctor, but asks God to worship Buddha, burn incense and pray, and even give the child a drink of incense and ashes to heal the child.

Eventually, the child's illness becomes more severe. Handing over a child to such a superstitious old man will persecute the child both physically and mentally, which will seriously affect the child's healthy growth.

The above types of grandmothers are not suitable for helping children's mothers to raise the new generation. Many grandma complained that "I don't want to help children take care of children". In fact, they are really sad and helpless.

Although the elderly with children can relieve the pressure of young parents, young parents need to consider the feelings of the elderly more in order to make the family more harmonious.

The old man has worked hard all his life, and in his later years, he could have enjoyed the joy of the sunset and lived for himself. Those elderly people who are willing to give up their comfortable life and help their children with their children are great parents who have devoted all their energy and selfless devotion to their children. Families with old people and children do help young parents solve their worries about raising children, and children must know how to be grateful and understand how to repay.

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