'Dink was free when he was young, but suffered in his later years'? Different DINK families, the ending is very different
Getting married and having children is an inevitable step in most people's lives. However, there are people in life who don't want children even if they are married, because of lack of fertility, because of fear of not being able to take responsibility for their children, or for other reasons. Such people have a name, ''Dink''.
Thirty years ago, the word ''DINK'' was very unfamiliar and new to us; but today, the concept has become very popular, and many people can correctly view this group. However, when it comes to DINK, people will always say something like ''Dink was free when he was young, but suffered desolately in his later years''.
Different DINK families, the ending is very different
The story of Aunt Zheng's family is heart-wrenching
When Aunt Zheng was young, she and her husband reached a consensus before marriage that they would not want children after marriage. The husband and wife both have their own careers and are financially independent. They often go to the mountains and waters in pairs, making friends around them envious. Compared with colleagues and friends who have to take care of babies and housework after work, the two can be said to be at ease.
Time passed by like that. Unfortunately, Aunt Zheng's husband passed away unexpectedly last year, leaving only Aunt Zheng, who was nearly seventy years old. Although Aunt Zheng is doing well because of her pension and children's subsidies, her face often shows nostalgia and loneliness, and her personality is not as cheerful as before.
The story of Aunt Li's house is much luckier
Auntie Li and her husband are a pair of happy friends. They fight every day, but they don't really worry about it many times. Aunt Li didn't want children because of family reasons, and her husband felt distressed and understood her, so the two walked over hand in hand. Although the couple are in their 60s now, they have always been in good health because of the habit of exercising. The two will also take time to travel, or chat with a few old friends. Even if they retire, they still insist on learning and acquiring new knowledge, and they live a fulfilling and happy life.
If you choose to be a DINK, what should the couple pay attention to?
1. Whether the true wishes of both parties are consistent
In many families, children are the bond between husband and wife, but DINK families who do not have children do not have this bond. Before doing DINK, the couple should communicate with each other's wishes to confirm whether they really want to do DINK. Of course, if the couple is not ''Tied Ding'', they can choose to leave the DINK team and have children when they are physically and mentally fit.
2. The economic foundation must be guaranteed
People's ability to act and react will gradually decline after old age. Families with children can count on their children to take care of them, but DINK families can only support each other as husband and wife. When they were young, the DINK couple only had to take care of themselves, and the pressure was naturally less. However, after getting old, the physical strength decreased and the probability of illness increased, so the economic foundation was very necessary for protection.
3. How to use the free time
After an ordinary couple has a child, the focus of life is basically on the child. The child cries, the child goes to school, the child's food, clothing, housing and transportation... all occupy the hearts of parents. The DINK couple don't need to worry about their children. They have a lot of free time. If they can't find something to do, they will feel very empty and boring. Therefore, DINK couples should learn to use their free time, such as learning a skill, etc., to find ways to improve themselves and enjoy life.