Parents use ''flow drive'' to make children fall in love with learning
Because of the epidemic, schools all over the world have delayed the time to start school and return to school, and children have started learning at home. No matter which way of learning at home is used, the most intuitive feeling for parents is that children's shortcomings in learning are really. ''Exposed to the naked eye''.
''If you don't urge you to do your homework, you won't take the initiative. ''
''Watching TV and playing mobile phones can be unmoved for two hours. Once he learns, he has a lot of things to do. He drinks water and goes to the toilet for a while. ''
''Every time I watch him do his homework, my blood pressure rises. It's good to complete the homework carefully and carefully, so that I can do what I want to do, and I have to grind and chirp. ''
During the period when the children began to study at home one after another, the mothers and fathers in the parenting exchange group were really complaining.
How to make children fall in love with learning and take learning as their own business has become a problem that parents attach the most importance to and want to get a solution.
The first thing to say is that learning is indeed an activity that is ''anti-humanity''. There is no doubt about this. Who doesn't want to do what they like to do freely, not to mention that learning is boring. It’s boring. Children are naturally active, and they don’t understand the concept that learning is beneficial to them. They completely regard learning as a task and burden, so that every time they want to sneak and try to escape.
Therefore, in order for children to be more active in learning, what they need to do is to correct their learning attitude, to be truly interested in learning, to find the joy of learning, and to regard learning as their own business. Naturally, there is no need for parents. Exhausted effort to supervise.
Here, it is recommended that parents understand and use ''flow drive'' to help children find the joy of learning and fall in love with learning.
One: What is ''flow-driven''?
Flow" refers to a state in which people are immersed in something or a goal they are working on at the moment, concentrate, concentrate, and not easily interfered by the outside world, emphasizing a person's concentration and spiritual experience. .
The concept of ''flow'' was first proposed by Prof. Mihali Chiksen Mihaly. In Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Experience, he wrote that ''flow'' is the phenomenon of doing something with unselfish devotion with all one's strength.
The explanation of ''flow'' written by Prof. Mihali Csiksen Mihalai in the book "Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Experience":
''Going all out to do one thing with selfless devotion is a kind of ''flow phenomenon''. Indulge in an engaging activity where time seems to stop and self-consciousness disappears. ''
In addition, ''flow'' will have nine characteristics: clear goals, immediate feedback, matching skills to challenges, oneness of mind and body, focus, sense of control, loss of self-awareness, distorted sense of time, and experience itself as a purpose .
In an interview, Mihari described the state of people entering flow as: ''You feel like you're totally working on the thing itself, and even yourself seems remote because of it. time flies. You feel that every action and thought of yours happens and develops like flowing water. You feel that you are fully absorbed and that all your abilities are being used to the fullest''.
In the ''flow'' state, people have achieved the purpose of concentration, so that all the power and energy in the brain is focused on one thing and orders us to do something in an orderly manner, so our The efficiency of work will also be improved, and you will be invested in it, and actively focus your time and energy on the purpose of completing this task.
And if the child is always not conscious in learning, always half-hearted and unable to concentrate, the flow drive can play a very good guiding role.
Two: The positive effect of ''flow drive'' on children
- Children are more diligent in thinking
Reasonable use of the method of ''flow-driven'' can help children develop logical thinking ability. Children can concentrate more and concentrate on a task. Naturally, they will also be highly concentrated in spirit, and they will be more in-depth. Thinking and exploring the problem, this process will improve the child's thinking ability, and will naturally develop a good habit of active thinking over time.
- Improve work efficiency
We always tell children not to be half-hearted and careful when doing anything. In fact, the role of ''flow drive'' is to make children more focused on the task itself, in the shortest time possible. Solving problems with quality and quantity, improving work efficiency and improving competitiveness will greatly promote children's learning and development.
When children can concentrate on solving problems, they can often get their own satisfactory results. The satisfaction after getting answers and success through thinking and exploration is unparalleled, especially when they are praised by others, it will promote self-confidence , to increase the interest in doing more behaviors.
The same is true of children's learning. When children can concentrate on their studies, achieve good grades, and get praise from teachers, parents or other children, children will burst out with a strong sense of achievement, and thus realize the inner feelings that hard work brings to themselves. Satisfaction, and the spiritual satisfaction of that knowledge accumulation.
Three: The drawbacks that must be paid attention to in the application of ''heart-flow drive''
Everything has two sides, and the same is true for the application of the ''flow-driven'' method. Parents should pay attention to the possible ''side effects'':
- Reduce the child's comprehensive ability
''Flow'' is in conflict with the cultivation of our comprehensive ability to a certain extent. In the current social development, higher and higher requirements are placed on people's comprehensive ability. A person is concentrating on one thing. Although it is a good thing, it is not appropriate if you are too immersed in it, so the use of the method of ''flow-driven'' should also be done in moderation.
- Inner formation of ''Obsessive Compulsive Disorder''
Some people, if they are always too focused on doing a certain thing, if they are frequently asked to do so, so that they develop a habit later, and over time, they are very likely to develop a mentality of ''Obsessive Compulsive Disorder''. If things don't go well, it's uncomfortable. If the result is good, then it's nothing. I'm afraid that "don't hit the southern wall, don't look back"" "don't give up when you don't see the Yellow River" ah!
Therefore, in using the method of ''flow-driven'', parents still have to make preparations to avoid the harm of side effects as much as possible.
Four: Precautions for the use of ''heart flow drive''
- A good learning atmosphere
First of all, remember to create a good learning environment. When children enter the learning state, they should reduce the interference from the outside as much as possible. This is not conducive to them calming down, and it is not conducive to the effect of "flow drive".
- Don't interfere too much
Montessori once said: ''Do not disturb the child unless you are invited. Create a child-centred world where they can ''be free themselves''.
Don't interfere too much with children, let them do what they want to do within a reasonable range, don't make too many demands and constraints on time and tasks, and give children free time and space.
- Reasonable time and task arrangement
If you keep doing one type of task, it is really easy to get bored, and the child will also show impatience, so parents can guide the child to learn a reasonable distribution, for example, in the study subjects, you can take the combination of ''Arts and Science'' or '' The mutual cooperation of theoretical knowledge and interests and specialties can help relieve children's pressure.
The flow drive method is not difficult to implement, as long as parents and children cooperate well, it can play a very good effect.