In less than 20 years, families with two children may face these 3 major ''difficulties'', please think about regeneration

foreword

Since the opening of the two-child policy, most single-child families have transformed into second-child families. So in the past few years, the topic of second-child families has not stopped. But families with a second child are less than 20 years old, and may face these three major ''difficulties''. I hope that parents who are preparing for a second child will think about rebirth.

case

Xiao A took advantage of the opening of the two-child policy and gave birth to a second child. She gave birth to a daughter with her first child and a son with her second child. After having a son, the little A couple put all their attention on their son, and paid less attention to their daughter. So the daughter was also dissatisfied with this, and she became hostile to this ''sudden'' brother.

But the little A couple didn't realize this until the younger brother grew up, and the little A couple's attention to the younger brother did not decrease. After 18 years, my brother is 18 years old, and my sister is 22 years old. However, the relationship between the elder sister and the younger brother is still not good. The hostility between the elder sister and the younger brother has not been eliminated. Hostility, in the face of these two major problems after giving birth to the second child, the little A couple felt helpless.

Most families are now two-child families, but the second-child family is less than 20 years old, and may face these three major ''difficulties'', please think about the regeneration.

Two-child families may face difficulties

1. Disunity among children

In a family with two children, if the parents have eccentric behavior, it will also affect the relationship between the two children. Like couple A in the case, there is eccentric behavior towards their son, and such behavior will make the relationship between the two children disharmonious. In less than 20 years, the problem that the second-child family may face is that the children will not be united and will not know how to support each other, and the children who are not favored will hate their parents because of this.

2. Great economic pressure

The cost of raising a child is very high. Parents have to spend at least hundreds of thousands of RMB to raise a child from birth to college graduation. If there is one more child, then the pressure will double as well. Therefore, in less than 20 years, the problem that the second-child family may face is the financial pressure. The cost of raising two children from birth to university will also make parents feel a lot of pressure, but they can only move forward.

3. The problem of children supporting their parents

In a second-child family, if parents have eccentric behaviors, the favored children will develop selfish characters; the unfavored children will resent their parents because of this.

In less than 20 years, the problem that families with two children will face is the problem of children supporting their parents. When they both have stable jobs and their parents have retired and have no income, one of the two children is spoiled and does not know how to be grateful, and the other resents their parents because they are not favored, so both children are unwilling to support their parents.

How to alleviate the problems of a family with two children

1. Care for two children equally

If parents want to alleviate the problem of a second-child family, the first thing parents need to do is to care for both children equally, and not to have eccentric behavior, so that children can feel their parents' equal attention and love in life and psychology. In this way, the two children will be united, the family will be more harmonious, and the family will be happy.

2. Rational consumption

The second biggest problem facing families with two children is financial pressure. Because the cost of two children will be very large, so families with two children should know how to consume rationally. For example, parents can wash the small clothes worn by the old man and put them on the second child, and the toys, dining chairs, etc. that the second child used when he was a child can be used by the second child, which can also save a lot of money. expenses and reduce financial stress.

3. Do a good job in the education of children's gratitude

Parents should also know how to do a good job of gratitude education for their children. Zhang Quanling once said: Our parents are too sensible, if you are fine, I will be fine. But parents who are too sensible will also raise children who are not grateful. Therefore, parents should let their children know how to feel sorry for their parents, understand the difficulties of parents, and do a good job in educating their children about gratitude, so that parents will be able to depend on them when they are old. This can alleviate the problem of the second child family

Summarize

A family with a second child is less than 20 years old and may face these three major ''problems''. If they insist on having a second child, the parents of the second child must know how to alleviate these three ''difficulties'', so as to make the family more harmonious. happier in old age.