What is the highest matching of the second child family happiness index? Not one son and one daughter, this combination is more sought after
Since China fully liberalized the two-child policy in 2016, discussions on two-child and two-child families have been ongoing over the years.
There are more and more second-born mothers around, and what everyone discusses the most is the impact of the two babies at home on their respective family lives.
So the question arises: what gender composition is synonymous with high happiness? Is it the traditional concept of having both children and children? This may not be the case!
The seemingly happy family of one son and one daughter actually contains many hardships
My friend Xiao Wang and her husband have been married for eight years. They are already the mother of two children. The older boy is about to go to primary school and the youngest daughter has just turned three.
In the eyes of many people, it is a happy thing to have both children and a harmonious family, but no one sees the hardships on the road of raising this child and a daughter!
Xiao Wang and her husband also hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. They ask the two children to cultivate their own interests from an early age, hoping that they will all have a skill.
In this way, the son chose the drum, and the daughter chose the ballet. As a result, on weekends, Xiao Wang and her husband have to send their two children to class separately. If her husband is busy, Xiao Wang has to rush to pick up the two children by himself.
There should also be different ways of educating the two children, telling the son to be humble to the sister, to be brave and upright, and to teach the daughter to be humble and sensible, to be self-reliant and self-love. Every day, the husband and wife are also troubled by the change in the way their children are educated.
There are many other things like this. Sometimes, Xiao Wang can't help but think: "Would it be easier if it was not one son and one daughter, but two sons or two daughters."
The three-combination, three-situation family model is the most sought after
- Two sons
Since ancient times, China has had the concept of "inheriting the lineage", and the two sons have fulfilled a family's desire to "inherit the incense".
But it is a fact that boys are naughty by nature and are not easy to discipline. Coupled with the huge economic pressure, the quality of life of many families who are not wealthy has declined a lot.
- One son and one daughter
Influenced by traditional Chinese concepts, many families still maintain the idea that "it is good to have a pair of children", and one son and one daughter look forward to them becoming dragons and phoenixes.
But just like Xiao Wang's family, there are a lot of problems that follow. Two children of different genders have different types of hobbies, so family expenses will also rise. More importantly, in terms of children's education, there are differences between men and women, and the methods and priorities of education are also different, and the energy spent will increase exponentially.
- Two daughters
The two daughters are considered to be the combination with the highest happiness index among many second-child families.
Daughters are parents’ intimate little padded jackets. For mothers, daughters are more considerate and more likely to feel their mother’s mood and perceive their thoughts; for fathers, daughters are the softest part of their hearts, and many daughters and fathers have changed because of this. Be gentle and more responsible.
Even as adults, wives and mothers, daughters will do well to support their parents financially and emotionally.
Two-child families want a better life, parents should do it
- Establish correct concepts and balance family relationships
Two-child families are prone to situations where parents feel that they owe the eldest.
After all, the small one needs more careful attention than the big one. But no matter what, children are children after all, and they all need the care and love of their parents. While taking care of the little baby, I also make time to help the boss with his homework and chat with him.
In addition, whether it is to eat or play, both children must have a bowl of water, and both of them should have two. Even if conditions do not allow, they should play together with one thing.
- Promote the feelings between children and do a good job of guiding
In a family with a high degree of happiness, the relationship between children is not too bad, and the relationship between children is also closely related to their parents.
Parents should always educate their children to establish the correct three views. It is inevitable that there will be some bumps between brothers and sisters, but the past will pass, and then they will be reconciled and friendly.
The children raised in this way are kind. The elder brother may be robbing his sister for the TV remote control one second before, and the next second he is willing to take the responsibility of breaking the glass for his sister, because "only I can bully my sister!"
- Teaching by words and deeds, cultivate children's sense of gratitude
In any case, the children will grow up one day. When they travel far, will their parents become empty nesters? If children were cultivated with a sense of gratitude from an early age, such a dilemma might not have happened.
Parents are also children, they should pay more filial piety to their parents in their daily life, and educate their children about gratitude. In the long run, the children will also plant the seeds of gratitude in their hearts, which will eventually sprout and grow!
In short, under the correct guidance and education of parents, families with different gender combinations may be very happy!