Is a child's refusal to go to kindergarten after school starts to prove that the parent-child relationship is good? Don't ignore the significance of entering the park
In the blink of an eye, the summer is hot. July-August is the time for each kindergarten to enroll in kindergarten. Many parents are considering whether to send their cute three-year-old baby to kindergarten.
Faced with the problem of baby's admission to kindergarten, parents feel very entangled. Some parents feel that their child's ability to take care of themselves is poor, and sending them to kindergarten will suffer a lot.
Some parents worry that their children are short and will be bullied by children in kindergarten.
Some parents believe that little girls can enter kindergarten early when they are three years old, and little boys should be sent to kindergarten one year later.
Parents' worries are not unreasonable. After all, there is only such a pearl in the family. If you hold it in the palm of your hand, you may be smashed, and if you put it in your mouth, it will melt.
Children who don't go to kindergarten are doing everything at home, what should the little beast do?
Because of the epidemic, many babies cannot go to school, and children who stay at home all day are like "divine beasts" locked in cages.
Energetic "Beasts" often do things at home while their mothers are not paying attention.
Lele is a little boy who just turned three years old. He is very naughty at home. He will take out the clothes in the closet and hide them in various places in the house; He would doodle all over the house with his mother's lipstick, and even the cat at home was exhausted by Lele.
The perfect Lele made her mother laugh and cry, because she was three years old, and Lele's father considered sending Lele to the kindergarten as soon as the school started, but Lele's mother was unwilling to send Lele to kindergarten because she felt bad for her son. The reason for the objection is that Lele can't take care of herself yet, for fear of going to kindergarten and suffering.
Lele’s example is not an isolated case. “Separation anxiety, being prone to illness, worrying about being bullied, and crying frequently” has always plagued parents, making them entangled and anxious about going to kindergarten.
Many parents even believe that their children refuse to go to kindergarten because they are unwilling to their mother, which is proof of a good parent-child relationship.
What is the special significance of entering kindergarten for children?
- Normalize the child's life
Children entering the kindergarten must arrange their lives according to the rules in the park every day. Unlike the leisurely life of 3 or 4 people who are at home freely, the life of the kindergarten must always abide by the rules.
Before children enter kindergarten, parents must consciously cultivate their children to develop regular work and rest habits and learn to abide by the rules.
- Develop children's independent creative ability
After entering kindergarten, because there is no help from parents around, the baby has to do everything by himself.
Such as eating by yourself, dressing by yourself, going to the toilet by yourself, etc.
The lack of self-care ability is also the reason why children develop separation anxiety.
Parents must teach their children these life skills before entering kindergarten, otherwise they will suffer more when they go to kindergarten.
In addition, parents should teach their babies to learn to protect themselves, and report to teachers and parents in time when they encounter problems.
- Let the children learn to obey the rules
The kindergarten will formulate relevant rules that need to be followed. After entering the kindergarten, the baby must learn to abide by the rules and create a harmonious kindergarten environment with the children.
For example, sitting and walking should be correct, washing hands before eating, not fighting, learning to share and waiting for friends, etc.
Learning to abide by the rules is the baby's first step from home to school and is crucial for the rest of life.
How should parents cooperate with their children in kindergarten?
- Develop the habit of the baby's life rules and teach the baby basic life skills
Before the baby goes to kindergarten, parents must consciously develop the life skills of the baby. For example, learn to eat by yourself, learn to dress by yourself, and develop a regular nap habit.
Babies who have developed a habit can quickly adapt to the regular life of kindergarten after they go to kindergarten.
In addition, parents should pay attention to cultivating the baby's social skills and teach the baby how to live in harmony with other children.
- Create a harmonious and loving family environment and bring more security to the baby
Most of the babies who cry often after entering kindergarten have "separation anxiety" due to lack of security. Parents should consciously tell their babies that they are only temporarily leaving to work, and that babies go to school and can be seen after school. Mom and Dad.
- Parents can also do some training with their baby
For example, the mother and the baby practice waving goodbye, and then tell the baby that the mother will be back in the evening.
In daily life, parents should create a harmonious and loving family environment for their children. Children's sense of security comes from their parents, and the dependent relationship between children and parents will make children adapt to the new environment faster.
- Read picture books about kindergarten themes to children
For example, "I Like Kindergarten", "One Day with Pata Cat", "Tom Goes to Kindergarten", "First Day of School" and so on.
Explaining picture book stories to children is an important means of communication between parents and children.
It is recommended that parents adapt the story of the picture book in their own language when reading the picture book. For example, when telling the plot of the kindergarten, bring the child into the role, and let the child have a vision for school life.
- Communicate with children and respect their opinions
Parents should communicate more with their children a few months before going to kindergarten, ask their children for their opinions, and often take their children to the gate of the kindergarten to watch the children in the kindergarten is also a good way.
- Find a kindergarten partner for your child in advance
Many babies meet many other children of the same age in their usual outdoor activities. Parents can consciously send two children who play well to the same kindergarten. In this way, although they are in an unfamiliar environment, they have good friends to accompany their children. You won't feel lonely and helpless.
Many parents also suffer from separation anxiety, which is even more serious than that of babies. For example, they are worried that their children will fall, be hungry, and be bullied. The constant anxiety makes parents unable to work with peace of mind.
In fact, going to kindergarten for a baby is a brave first step in his life. Because the kindergarten has the protection of teachers, parents should not be overly anxious but should be proud of his independence.
Kindergarten is the cradle of a child's growth. Parents let the baby enter the kindergarten so that the baby can adapt to the social environment faster. If you always tie the baby to your side, it is like cutting off his wings. Parents must first adjust their mentality.
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