Families with daughters, parents should pay attention to these four taboos, which will affect the happiness of the children in the second half of their lives
Raising a girl is not an easy task. After the birth of a daughter, all parents love and care, but is your method really correct? Will your daughter grow up to be the proud and confident girl in your heart?
There are still many taboos in raising a daughter.
If you have a daughter at home, parents should remember the following four can't, which will affect the child's happiness in the second half of life.
Don't be too proud of your daughter
Many parents regard their daughters as treasures.
Such a character will undoubtedly become an obstacle to her social interaction in the future growth path.
No child likes to play with selfish people, and no adult will tolerate unruly girls indefinitely. Obviously, only a girl who has been brought up in the correct way will be loved, and her future path will be smoother. have the opposite effect.
There is such an example:
Nana is the second child born to her mother when she was 40 years old. She is 16 years apart from her sister. Since birth, she has grown up in the doting of the whole family. All mistakes will be interpreted by her mother as "the child is still young, just grow up." already."
She naturally became the bully of the family, speaking without boundaries and doing things without measure. In order not to offend the mother, everyone would not say whether the child was wrong, but naturally they gradually stayed away.
No preference for boys over girls
The girl is very precocious, and every word and deed of her parents will leave traces in her heart, and her parents will keenly capture the difference between her and her brother and brother.
This will lead to two extreme psychology in children, either cynical and complaining about the injustice of the world; or grievances and forbearance, becoming sensitive and inferior. This will not be the result that parents want to see. The psychological trauma of childhood will affect the child's life, and she will only have a seemingly complete personality when she grows up.
not overprotective
After having a daughter, many parents have delusions of persecution and feel that there is danger everywhere. As long as the daughter is not in their sight, they will panic and become anxious. I was deceived by my feelings, and I was worried about suffering and being tired at work.
I have raised my daughter into a canary and can't stand any difficulties. In the long run, the child completely loses the ability to do things on his own and becomes overly dependent on his parents. I don't think this is the original intention of the parents!
I once watched such a program. My 18-year-old daughter asked the program team for help, and hoped that her father would stop taking her to school. Before meeting this father, we may not have a deep understanding of this appeal, but only after seeing my father. the depth of her daughter's distress.
Dad said, "She has to pass three traffic lights on her way to school, how can I be assured of letting her go by herself." Everyone was stunned, completely forgetting that his daughter was an adult college student. The father's love is understandable, but the daughter is really unbearable.
can't support daughter
It is said that the poor raise children and the rich raise daughters. The right and wrong of this have always been controversial, but it is wrong to raise daughters poor. The so-called rich and poor are not just material satisfaction. The spiritual world and cultivation temperament of girls are all Shaped by family education and environment.
By reading more books, you can learn more ways of thinking; by learning art, you can cultivate sentiment and cultivate one's self-cultivation; often look at the outside world with your parents, and feel your own insignificance properly, so that you will not be confined to your own small entanglements and cannot extricate yourself.
I often hear fathers say, "I want my daughter to have everything and see everything, so that when she grows up, she will not be deceived by any kid with a candy." No matter right or wrong, it is true. expression of love.
Four Points of View Hope can help parents find the direction of raising their daughters. Every girl has a different personality, and they are all the cutest children in their parents' hearts.
For new fathers and mothers, you must have a learning and progressive mindset, grow with your children, and embrace your angels with unconditional love.