Your relationship with your parents is your relationship with the world.
Zhengzhou Guoyitang: If you have any dissatisfaction with your parents, you will have this dissatisfaction for the rest of your life; if you have a good relationship with your parents, you will bring the same appreciation and gratitude to every relationship in the future.
It doesn't matter whether our parents are alive or living with them. Relationships with our parents determine our future relationships with others.
If you were not raised by your biological parents, then the so-called parents here refer to people whose status in your heart is equal to your parents. It could be your aunt, aunt, adoptive parent, sibling, teacher, etc. who raised you or acted as a parent.
- Of all relationships, the most important is the relationship with parents ============================================================================
Your relationship with your parents is extremely important. If you have any dissatisfaction with your parents, you will have that dissatisfaction all your life; if you have a good relationship with your parents, you will carry the same appreciation and gratitude into every future relationship.
Because most relationships in life are replicas of childhood and parental relationships. For example, you hate your father's authority and assertiveness. As you grow older, you will gradually attract people who are authoritative, controlling, or who will impose fear on you.
Another possibility is that you will become what you hate or manifest what you hate, just as you will become what you love and manifest what you love.
If you love your dad a lot, you may be like him, but if you hate or fear him for some reason, you may also be like him.
- Parents don’t live outside you, they live inside you =======================================================
Even if your body is separated from them, even if you have grown up, they still live in you.
Someone might say, "I've grown up and my relationship with my parents has long since been affected. Maybe I was hurt when I was a kid, but that was a long time ago, and the pain is long gone. I know what my parents went through. , I know they're not responsible for that." That's what a typical adult would say.
But we all have a child inside of us. It is not the adults who are hurt, frightened, and disappointed, but the inner child. This kid can suddenly have a very stupid, raw rage and anger, and you'd be amazed that you have such emotions inside.
Pain in a relationship can align you with your low consciousness, which is destructive and can send you into self-destructive behavior patterns.
But if those relationships heal, like your relationship with your mom heals and the mother-son relationship becomes good, you'll find that you can relate easily to all the women, maybe your wife or your daughter, because of those relationships live on us.
If someone complains about his problems with his boss, partner, or friends, I ignore it and deal with his problems with his father or mother first.
- Improving your relationship with your parents is: First priority ===================================================================
In theory, all relationships mirror your relationship with your parents, and all relationships will truly reflect what happened between you and your parents. Your relationship with family, friends, colleagues, etc. It all depends on your relationship with your parents. Once your relationship with your parents improves, everything will be fine.
Life is relationships, so life reflects those relationships. That's why if you don't have a good relationship with your father, you can have financial problems; if you have a bad relationship with your mother, it creates unnecessary obstacles, because life reflects problems in relationships, life is relationships...
When these relationships with parents are healed, people will begin to grow and overcome obstacles previously thought impossible. Healing suffering is not difficult, just an intention, a practical effort, and a connection to a higher consciousness.
After the parent-child relationship is corrected, everything will be in place, and various problems such as economy and health will be solved.
- One of the easiest ways to improve your relationship with your parents is to start experiencing them =======================================================================================================
Just like when you go to the beach, watching the waves and feeling the breeze, how would you feel? Or imagine that you are tasting a delicious food. How will you experience it? Likewise, if your dad is roaring, enjoy his roaring like a lion; if your mom is doing something you don't like, make it something good.
You have to start going through these things, going through those moments that can be painful for you. You have to start experiencing...
This is the method we have to practice. It's no use complaining about your parents. You have to commit to taking care of yourself. People are used to dealing with other people, but doing so will get nowhere. You can't change others, all you can do is change yourself. The most amazing thing is that if you change, just wait a little longer and others will automatically change.
The only thing you have to do with your relationship with your parents is to deal with yourself because you don't accept yourself and you don't love yourself. When you face yourself, you begin to experience your parents, and you accept them and love them for who they are. Instead of what you want them to be, everything will improve.
In all relationships, no one else matters. You have to change your attitudes, feelings and perceptions of others. All you have to do is change the way you think about others and improve your relationship that way.