Why is it said that the 'eldest child' of a second-child family is the foundation of cultivation, and the second child will not be bad if the first child is excellent?

With the development of society, the country has opened up the two-child policy, which makes families with only one child very happy, because they can finally have another child, which makes the family more lively, and the child can have a partner, and it will not be so lonely. Therefore, families are all taking action one after another, doing their homework for the second child, so that the child can have good living conditions at birth, and at the same time allow the child to accept the arrival of a younger brother or sister.

But after the child is born, the education of the child becomes the most concerned issue for parents. Although it is said that there is a child before, the education of the child is practice makes perfect, but the education of one child is different from that of two children. Because there are two children, parents can't take it lightly when educating their children, and the education of the second child cannot be arbitrary. Parents all hope to cultivate the two children into talents. In fact, there is no need to worry about the training of children. As long as the eldest child is well trained, the second child does not need to worry. The eldest child is the foundation of the family.

1: The educational phenomenon of two-child families

1. Parents educate the eldest child to let the second child

When the second child is born, parents pay more attention to the second child, and the parents dote on this difficult child very much, and the child is still young, so the parents love the second child more than the older one. Moreover, parents feel that the eldest child is much older and more sensible than the second child, so parents sometimes ask the eldest child to give more to the second child, to be courteous to the second child. Even if the second child does not do well, the parents will educate the second child. The eldest child wants to let the second child take care of her brother or sister. Parents will always educate the eldest child to be courteous to the second child, and to give the good to the second child, and always educate the eldest child, as a brother and sister, to know how to be courteous to the child.

2. Eccentric Erwa

Parents say that they are treated equally, but they are automatically biased towards the second child in their behavior. They always unconsciously think that the second child is good. Once there is something, the parents will preconceived that it is the bad of the big baby, and the big one. The baby can't grow up, so he will educate the older baby, which is very eccentric. Parents are very inconsistent in educating their children, and it is easy to be eccentric. They always tend to favor the second child. Parents have different attitudes toward their children, and they tend to favor the second child more.

3. Education through hard work and hard work

Parents are more worried about their children's education when their second child is born, and they are more nervous about their children's education. Therefore, parents are more laborious and tiring for the education of their two children. They are worried that because of their own bad behavior, This led to the wrong development of the two children. Therefore, when parents educate the eldest child and the second child, they will look forward and backward, and do not know how to educate their children, because parents are afraid that the two children will become polarized, one is excellent and the other is not. Therefore, education is more difficult, and it is not easy.

There are still mistakes in the education concept of the parents of the second child. Either there will be a situation of partiality, or the education of the two children will not be able to resist, which is not good for the development of the children. The children educated in this situation are not all excellent, which may lead to the two children not meeting the expectations, causing unnecessary disputes. If the child wants to make both children very good, then the child has to train the big baby and make the big baby excellent. This is not to say partiality, but to serve as a role model. If the big baby is excellent, the second baby will also. Influenced to become better.

Two: Dawa's role model

1. Follow the example

Children's behaviors are not formed independently by themselves. At the beginning, the child is a blank piece of paper, which has not yet been described, so Erwa did not have any consciousness when she was a child, and did not form her own concept of understanding of the outside world. . Children's understanding of the world is learned from the people around them, and although parents say that they are with their children, but parents can only accompany their children in the morning and evening or on holidays. baby. Therefore, Erwa's behavior will be subtly influenced by Dawa. If Dawa's behavior is good, and her manners and concepts are excellent, Erwa will slowly learn Dawa's in such an environment. Excellent behavior, influenced by the big baby, will naturally become excellent.

2. Psychological tendencies

If there is an excellent brother and sister around, then Erwa will slowly develop a worship of Dawa in the daily life with Dawa, Erwa will have a worship mentality for Dawa, and Erwa will put herself His older brother or older sister is regarded as his idol. Because it is the idol in her heart, Erwa sees that her idol is so good, Erwa will slowly catch up with her idol under the psychological effect of worship, the child will gradually become excellent, Erwa will Try to be as good as your brothers and sisters, and get praise from others. Children will become excellent because of their psychological tendencies.

3. Erwa refuses to admit defeat

Under the influence of Dawa for a long time, Erwa saw Dawa's excellence, saw Dawa being praised by others for her excellence, and received praise from others, Erwa saw that her brother and sister were praised by others because of her excellence, It will stimulate the indomitable spirit of the child. Erwa felt that both herself and the eldest child were born from their parents. Since her elder sister or elder brother was so powerful, she could not lose to her elder brother or elder sister, and she could not be as powerful as her elder sister and elder brother, but she was inferior to others. A child's unwillingness to admit defeat will make him work harder and become better.

In fact, there is no need to worry about educating children in second-child families. The education of children is not difficult, and at the same time, they are not worried that their children will be raised badly. We must know that if they want to make their children excellent, parents have to train the older baby. The baby is the foundation of the second child family. If the eldest child in the second-child family is excellent, then the second child will not be too bad. The second child will follow the eldest child and become excellent because of the role of an example. Therefore, in a family with a second child, parents do not need to worry about their children's education. Parents can educate the older baby more strictly, and let the second baby's education become natural through the older baby.

Three: How to train the big baby

1. Cultivate a sense of responsibility

Parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's sense of responsibility in peacetime, because in a second-child family, the second child needs to be brought by the older baby, and the older baby must have a sense of responsibility to bring his younger brother or younger sister, so parents should take care of their children. Cultivation of responsibility. Moreover, the cultivation of the elder baby's sense of responsibility will guarantee the education of the second baby, because the education of the second baby is inseparable from the education and company of the older baby. You will know how to be yourself and set an example for the second child.

2. Cultivate without discrimination

When parents are cultivating the older baby, they should not be too strict, but they should be too relaxed and spoiled for the second baby. Parents should treat both children equally and have the same love for both children. Children are treated differently. When parents are raising big children, they should explain the situation to the big children. Don't let the big children misunderstand the attitude of the parents. It is to make children better, not to say that love will be reduced because of the appearance of the second child. The equal treatment of parents can make the two children live in harmony, support and become better.

3. Don’t always compare when educating children

When parents sometimes educate their children, they can't help but compare the two children together and compare which one is better. Parents should not use excellent children to educate poor children when they see that a child is excellent, and do not exalt one child to belittle another. Such behavior will lead to good children becoming conceited, bad children to become inferior or even jealous, and will not learn the excellence of the big baby. If this goes on, the two children will not grow up as expected. Therefore, when parents reeducate their children, they must not always compare. Even if the parents' original intentions are good, the consequences will be bad.

Parents all hope that their family is harmonious and lively, and hope that their family does not have only one child, which will make it look more lonely, so now most of them have a second child, so that their children are not alone, but also You can have family happiness. But when the second child is born, it is necessary to educate the child. The education of the second child family cannot be arbitrary. I believe that parents hope that both children can become dragons among human beings.

But parents don't have to worry too much. If there is a big baby, there is no need to worry too much about the education of the child. If the big baby is excellent, then the second baby will not be too bad. Even if the eldest child has the foundation of the family's cultivation, if the eldest child is excellent, the second child will follow the same example, and will become equally good under the role of example. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the way when cultivating the big baby, and don't be self-defeating.