These 'new types of unfilial piety' are spreading, but parents and children don't take it seriously, they must reflect
Filial piety is one of the most important and most basic of traditional virtues. Parents make sacrifices and energy for their children, and naturally do not want to raise children who are disobedient and unfilial.
In addition to success in career, parents also hope that their children will be more filial to themselves in the future, which is also the greatest spiritual support in old age.
But there are very few who are truly filial in reality. Most children's understanding of filial piety is to provide their parents with a guaranteed material life. In fact, just doing this is far from the standard of filial piety.
Even more and more people in the society are developing in the opposite direction. Many netizens call it "new type of unfilial piety".
These new types of unfilial piety are spreading, chilling parents, but children don't know it
- Let parents become left-behind elders
When I was young, it was hard work and hard work to bring up the children. The parents' wish is that in addition to the children's future, they also hope that they can go home more often.
However, the reality of social pressure makes today's young people have few days to accompany their parents throughout the year.
In particular, children from rural areas will move to the city to settle down if they have any prospects. If the situation is better, maybe they will bring their parents to live with them. Due to the limited conditions, it is almost a fool's dream to want to accompany them.
As a result, elderly parents have become "left-behind elderly", looking forward to their children's return home all day long.
- When you are old, you have to help with grandchildren
This is almost a common phenomenon in society. Under the pressure of car loans and housing loans, young people often cannot spare more energy to take care of their children.
At this time, the older generation became the main force with children. Downstairs in the community and in the park, frail old people with grandchildren can be seen everywhere. One old and one small seems to have become a specific phenomenon-level culture.
But the parents are getting old and should have enjoyed their old age in peace. What's more, regardless of the law or reason, parents are only obliged to raise their own children, and have no obligation to raise children for their children. It is a love to help you bring your baby, and it is a duty not to help you.
However, in order to reduce the pressure on children, or some of the forced situations, many elderly people have to aggrieve themselves and help with the baby, even if it is a burden to their physical and psychological conditions.
- gnawing old
When the child is an adult, it should be time to repay the parents, but because there are too many giant babies, the child still can't get out of the family circle when he grows up, relying on the care of the parents endlessly.
The first half of my life has been spent in sacrifice, and when my body goes downhill, I have to take care of my children, how sad!
Even some children never give up until they finish their parents' last savings, and quarrels and conflicts often break out at home. Such a situation is really embarrassing.
- Disrespecting parents
Some children who grew up in a spoiled situation always misunderstood that the world should be centered on themselves, and not only looked down on their friends and colleagues around them, but also looked down on their parents and despised the elderly.
Between the lines and in his daily actions, he was very disrespectful, with a lofty attitude. This kind of situation is the most chilling for parents, presumably they will also regret the improper education method at the beginning!
Having a child who is disobedient and disrespectful to oneself is a lifelong regret and nightmare of a parent.
All in all, whether it is forced to be unfilial under the pressure of the real society, or actively unfilial due to gnawing on the old and disrespecting, these new types of unfilial piety are quietly breeding and spreading rapidly, and it is also a problem worthy of people's pondering.
Although raising children is not for the purpose of preventing old age, children must also have a grateful attitude for their parents' efforts and gain corresponding respect and emotional fetters.