The 3 levels of emotional management, which level are you at?
The reason your emotions are bothering you is that you haven't learned how to manage your emotions. Strong mood swings consume a lot of energy for the human body. For us, it was an emotional roller coaster. We often feel tired, divided, and don’t know what to do.
But you know what? Emotion itself is actually a kind of innate energy. It can bring vitality and various colors and possibilities to our boring life. Emotions haunt you because you haven't learned how to manage them, and their true power and wisdom. Generally speaking, people's ability to deal with emotions can be divided into three levels.
- Put it as you want, without any scruples ============================================
This is usually a child's performance.
Babies cry when they are hungry, and make trouble when they are unhappy. But if you're an adult, and you're headstrong and don't care about other people's feelings, we'll call him a "giant baby", or think he's "having a princess disease." Such people are likely to have not received the correct guidance and care from their parents in the process of growing up, and still vent their emotions after they grow up, trying to win the attention of others.
Usually adults, after going through some events and setbacks, become mature and sensible and begin to learn how to manage their emotions, which leads to the second level of emotional control.
- Learn to be restrained and stay sane. ========================================
It's also a favorite way of many people to suppress emotions, preventing us from making decisions and making mistakes at the height of our emotions.
But in life, who has not encountered a few troubles? Negative emotions are like shadows in the sun. It is impossible to completely eliminate them. Everyone has emotions, and outright depression only creates a bigger backlash.
If we can't vent our negative emotions in a timely and reasonable manner, and always hold the attitude of "blessing is a blessing" and "forbearance is forbearance", those bad emotions that have nowhere to be placed will accumulate in our hearts and eventually become a ticking time bomb .
- Know how to vent properly and have their own emotional outlet. =================================================================
When it comes to emotional control, many people like to find reasons from themselves. It never occurred to them to be angry. Maybe it's someone else's fault.
This is not for everyone to shirk their responsibilities and blame others, but when negative emotions arise, don’t reject them, let alone feel distressed. What you need to do is to think about how to properly digest and vent your emotions without hurting others.
The next time you're angry, don't slam the door immediately and make the scene ugly; don't feel sullen in your heart, but also persuade yourself to be more generous and think about the good.
Try expressing your dissatisfaction in other ways.
Say to that person alone, "What you just did made me uncomfortable," or complain to a close and trusted friend, turning anger into humor.