Letting children choose their own interests is a false proposition! The premise of all hobbies: you must first know

Interests are the best teachers. Having hobbies and hobbies is of great help to the development of children. If parents know that their children are interested, they can give them the motivation to live and learn, and can further improve their abilities. Parents now know that children's interests are very important, and they need to be cultivated and developed by parents. If the children's interests get a development of the children's ability, they can be further improved and expanded, and the children's knowledge can be enriched.

Parents also know that children's interests should be chosen by their own children, not by parents forcing children to like the interests chosen by parents. Such interests are not what children really like, even if children listen to their parents' opinions and choose their parents. If you like an interest, if you cultivate this interest, it will not have the expected effect. Because parents know this, they will let their children choose their own interests to develop themselves, which is more conducive to the growth and ability of children. But in fact, letting children choose their own interests is actually a false proposition, and there is no real sense of self-selecting interests.

One: The role of interest in the development of children.

1. Ability to develop interest

Every child needs to have a certain ability, a talent and an advantage, so as to survive in the social competition, so that the child can have a certain development, if the child does not have a certain ability, then the child will be rejected by the society. disuse. The basis of ability training is interest, and the development of interest ultimately forms ability. Therefore, if you want a child to have a certain ability, you must let the child have a certain interest, and then develop and cultivate the interests and hobbies. In the process of development and cultivation, gradually form their own abilities and have certain advantages.

Molière's father was a businessman, and he hoped that his son would inherit his business. But Molière had no interest in doing business, and was terribly obsessed with theatre. The plays of famous playwrights such as ancient Greece and Rome became his spiritual food. He read all night long and walked onto the stage to perform plays. His father scolded him severely for this, and asked the teacher to persuade him, but Molière did not change his infatuation. He honestly told his father that he had no interest in business and that he liked theatre. When the father saw that his son was so obsessed with drama, he no longer reluctantly. Molière later created many excellent plays, and finally became a world-renowned great playwright.

2. Interest provides motivation

Children's interests can provide children with motivation to study and live, and children have pursuits when they have interests. Children will fight for their interests and realize their dreams. The existence of interests can make children confident to do anything, but not have the courage to face them and provide motivation to study and live. The existence of interests can make children full of energy every day, and they are very energetic to cultivate their own interests every day, instead of feeling very bored and boring because the interests are not what they like.

3. Provide comfort to children

Today's society is a competitive society. Not only parents are under pressure, but children are also under pressure from various aspects. Children's psychological conditions will become tense or even defective due to the pressure they face. The emergence of interest will be able to give the child a relaxing moment, allowing the child to release their pressure and find comfort in their hearts. Because interest is able to relax children's mood and be able to do what they like in free time, without having to face the rest of the pressure in life or study. Therefore, the child has an interest, which can make the child's life easier, and can make the child's mental health and sustenance.

Interest has a significant impact on a child's personal development, and it also plays a role in a child's future achievement to a certain extent. A child's interest will gradually develop into a child's ability over time, and even become a child's spiritual life. sustenance, so that children can relax in difficult times. Therefore, more emphasis is placed on the cultivation of children's interests, but parents cannot force children to choose interests that parents think are good, but let children choose by themselves, but this is a false proposition to let children choose themselves Choose your own interests.

Two: Don't let children choose their own interests

1. Lack of awareness of interest

The child still thinks that the understanding of interest is not deep enough, and he cannot fully understand what interest means. He only thinks that interest is what he likes to do, and there is no persistence. Children do not have a deep understanding of interests, which also leads to children not knowing what interests they really like, and blindly following others to choose the interests they think they like, which will only make children walk more to a certain extent. Road, wasted time and energy, and in the end found that what I really liked was other interests.

2. The child's three-point heat

Now that the child has not yet settled down, he cannot do one thing well from beginning to end. When doing things, he is always at the level of three points and half a bucket of water. Parents let their children choose by themselves, and children will choose their own interests at will. When they see what other people like, they will choose them as their own interests, and then they will like other things after a few days. Interest, children who come and go like this can't hold on to their interest for long, and they will always be three-pointed. Children choose their own interests but can't stick to it. It is impossible without parental supervision and guidance. Even if the interest is what the child likes, but in the end it is not able to cultivate the ability to become his own, this is very unfavorable for the child's growth. .

Although it is said that children should be allowed to choose their own interests, it is not up to parents to choose and force their children to learn, that is, interests, but parents should also pay attention to how children choose their favorite interests, and then stick to it. Instead of letting the child make his own choices completely, this will only lead to more and more three-point fever in the child, and the child's persistence will become weaker and weaker, which will seriously affect the child's growth and development. Therefore, parents cannot completely let their children choose for their own interests. This is a wrong approach. Parents should not blindly obey their children's wishes. Parents should use the correct method to let their children choose their favorite interests and cultivate their interests.

Three: Cultivate children's interests

1. Correctly recognize interest

Parents should educate children's awareness of interest, so that children can correctly understand the true meaning of interest, and have a correct attitude and understanding of interest, so that children can be serious about their efforts and can seriously choose their favorite interests, and then go to Keep cultivating your interests. Before letting children choose their own interests, it is more important to let children realize the meaning of interests. Children's cognition of interests is correct, so that children can accurately find their favorite interests, and children's interests can be accurately cultivated and developed.

2. Let the children choose their interests

As a parent, you still can’t force your child to choose an interest that parents think is good, but what parents think is not necessarily what the child likes, so parents should let the child choose the interest they like, and then continue to cultivate and develop the interest that the child likes. Because if the child chooses by himself, he will have the motivation and inner drive to let the child develop and nurture. Forced to accept, the persistence of interest will not last long, it will only arouse the child's dislike of interest, and make the child no longer have a healthy psychology and mentality for interest.

3. Guide the child

The child's interest is guided. When the child chooses the interest he likes, the parents should respond to the child's behavior, etc., and tell the child that since he has chosen an interest, he has the responsibility to be responsible for his own interest. Let the child know that to be a child who has a beginning and an end, he must insist on cultivating his own interests, rather than treating his interests with three-point enthusiasm. The guidance of parents is very important. Although children choose their favorite interests, whether they can cultivate them depends on whether the guidance of parents is sufficient or not.

There is a specialization in the surgery industry, and today's children still need to have an interest to cultivate their own ability, so that they can have an advantage. Hegel said that a deep and broad mind always extends the field of interest to innumerable things. Parents should know how to let their children have interests, to cultivate their own interests, so that children can have a positive attitude and attitude towards life, and can develop better.

Today's parents advocate letting children choose their own interests, and don't force children to choose interests they don't like, so as to help children's development. However, it is not possible to let the child choose by himself, because the child does not have a deep understanding of interests and cannot view interests well. Therefore, if parents want to let their children choose their own interests, they must first let their children know and have correct interests. Cognition, so as to promote the development of children's interest.