It's been 40 years since the first DINK families, what can they think about us?
The DINK family is not a new term in China, and many famous people are fans of the DINK family. Famous figures such as Chow Yun-fat and Chen Huilian, Ekin Cheng and Meng Jiahui.
These people either have common interests or do not want their wives to suffer from the pain of pregnancy, so they choose DINK, and the two of them will die together.
The concept of "DINK" is actually an imported product.
The full English name of "DINK" is "Double Income No Kids", which means that parents with dual incomes do not raise children. Abbreviated as "dink", the Chinese translation is "Dink". and appeared in China in the 1980s.
It has been 40 years since the first batch of Chinese families who chose DINK. Can they really choose their own lives freely when they were caught in the controversy?
The meaning and origin of DINK
It is not entirely correct to simply equate DINK with childless families.
In fact, unlike many objective situations that may exist in a family without children, Dink is more voluntarily giving up his reproductive rights.
The traditional Chinese view holds that "there are three kinds of unfilial piety, and no offspring is the greatest", and it emphasizes the fact that children inherit the lineage and longevity. With the development of the times, more and more people are more willing to try new ideas. DINK came into being under the urging of many environments.
It is not difficult to find that in the years since the implementation of the two-child policy, there has not been a wider wave of births around us. On the contrary, more and more people are showing their desire not to have children.
According to the "Report on Childbirth Intentions of Chinese Young People":
In 2017, China's new-born population was 17.23 million, a decrease of about 600,000 compared with 2016. It is not difficult to find that the willingness to bear children in the 1980s and 1990s has dropped significantly.
Economic pressure, the needs of life personality, etc. are all factors for young people to choose DINK.
Sociologists once attributed the reasons why young people choose DINK to the awakening of female consciousness, the improvement of the social security system, and the economic independence of women.
Why do young people choose DINK
- Influence of new ideas
The characteristics of a certain civilization in human history are actually the characteristics of this history.
The increase of DINK groups is not a feature of a country or a region. Since the 1980s, most parts of the world have experienced reduced fertility, and China is no exception.
After the reform and opening up, more and more new thoughts flooded into China in the 1980s. At that time, some people in the society were influenced by the new thoughts and chose DINK as their future lifestyle.
- Increased stress in life
Dinks in the 1980s and infertile people in 2020 have the same considerations in terms of life pressure.
The pressure of life has increased, the pace of life has become tighter, and the huge consumption expenditure of children is the key to causing many people to dare not give birth.
According to an online survey, the average family spends 700,000 yuan to raise children, and the cost of childcare has accounted for 50% of the family income of Chinese citizens.
Famous gymnast Yang Wei once called his three children "currency shredders": his daughter's early education, medical care, and daily expenses are as high as 100,000 yuan.
For the average family, even dual-earner families can struggle to bear the cost of their children.
- Personal life needs
People who choose DINK families often have clear requirements for their lives. It is precisely because of the needs of a clear personality life that they are reluctant to give their time to children.
In a program, a Mr. Chen who chose Dink's life said frankly:
I have many hobbies: rock climbing, mountaineering. So I don't think I have more time to give to my children.
In their view, having children doesn't really matter as long as you can live an active life.
What problems will the DINK family face?
- Social disapproval
After all, Chinese society is a traditional society, and the state of infertility is not conducive to the integration of young people who choose DINK to some extent.
Parents and elders hope that their children can live a happy life around their knees. It is often difficult to understand the thoughts of young people who choose DINK.
Young people who choose to live in DINK will be burdened with heavy social recognition pressure and guilt that their parents' wishes have not been fulfilled.
- The instability of intimacy
There is a concept in "Dink" called "white Ding".
It means that some couples who have been DINK for more than ten years choose to have children when they reach middle age.
The emergence of this situation will break the agreement when the Dink family was first established. If the two parties cannot reach an agreement at this time, the relationship between the two will become precarious.
- Make arrangements for your retirement
For DINK families, how to arrange their pension and medical care is a problem that every DINK family must consider.
Reasonable use of insurance, storage and other financial means and social security system to escort their old age.
All in all, DINK is a choice for his future life after all.
What is needed is long-term planning, making overall arrangements for one's old age, rationally facing the views of society, and trying to make one's life more colorful.