It is a false proposition to let children choose their own interests! The premise of all hobbies: to know first

Interest is the best teacher. Having interests and hobbies is of great help to the development of children. If parents know that their children are interested, they can give them motivation to live and study, and can further improve their own abilities. Parents now know that children's interests are very important, and they need to be cultivated and developed by parents. If children's interests are developed, their abilities can be further improved and expanded, and their knowledge can be enriched.

Parents also know that children's interests should be chosen by the children themselves, rather than parents forcing the children to like the interests chosen by the parents. Such interests are not the interests that the children really like, even if the children follow the opinions of the parents and choose the interests of the parents. Like the interest, this interest will not have the effect expected. Because parents know this, they will let their children choose their own interests and develop themselves, which is more conducive to the growth of children and the cultivation of abilities. But in fact, letting children choose their own interests is actually a false proposition, and there is no real sense of choosing their own interests.

One: the role of interest in children's development.

1. Ability to cultivate interests

Every child needs to have a certain ability, a talent and an advantage, so that they can survive in social competition and allow the child to develop to a certain extent. If the child does not have a certain ability, then the child will be rejected by the society. disuse. The foundation of ability training is interest, and the development of interest eventually forms ability. Therefore, if you want your children to have certain abilities, you must let them have certain interests, and then develop and cultivate their interests and hobbies. During the process of development and cultivation, they will gradually form their own abilities and have certain advantages.

Molière's father was a businessman, and he hoped that his son would inherit his business. But Molière has no interest in business, but is extremely obsessed with drama. The scripts of famous playwrights such as ancient Greece and Rome became his spiritual food. He forgot to eat and sleep to read, and went to the stage to perform plays. His father severely reprimanded him for this, and asked the teacher to persuade him, but Molière remained infatuated. He told his father sincerely that he was not interested in business and that he liked the theater. Seeing that his son was so obsessed with drama, the father stopped forcing it. Molière later created many excellent plays, and finally became a world-renowned great playwright.

2. Motivated by interest

Children's interests can provide children with motivation to learn and live, and children will have pursuits when they have interests. Children will fight for their interests and realize their dreams. The existence of interests can make children have the confidence to do anything, and the absence of interests can make children have the courage to face it and provide motivation to study and live. The existence of interests can make children full of energy every day, and they are very energetic to cultivate their interests every day, instead of feeling bored and boring because the interests are not what they like.

3. Let the children have comfort

The current society is a competitive society. Not only parents are under pressure, but children are also facing pressure from many aspects. The psychological condition of children will become tense and even have defects due to the pressure they face. But the emergence of interest will be able to give children a relaxing moment, allowing them to release their pressure and find comfort in their hearts. Because interest is able to let children relax and be able to do what they like in free time without having to face other pressures in life or study. Therefore, children have an interest, which can make their lives easier, and can make their minds healthier and have sustenance.

Interest has a significant impact on a child's personal development, and also has a certain degree of effect on a child's future achievements. Over time, a child's interest will gradually develop into a child's ability, and even become a part of the child's spiritual life. So that children can relax in times of difficulty. Therefore, more attention is paid to the cultivation of children's interests, but parents cannot force children to choose the interests that parents think are good, but let children choose by themselves, but this is a false proposition for children to choose by themselves. Choose your interests yourself.

Two: Do ​​not let children choose their own interests

1. Lack of deep understanding of interests

The child still thinks that the understanding of interest is not deep enough, and he cannot fully understand what interest means. He only thinks that interest is to do whatever he likes, and he has no persistence. Children do not have a deep understanding of interests, which leads to children not knowing what interests they really like, and blindly follow others to choose what they think they like. This will only make children go more to a certain extent Road, wasted time and energy, in the end I found that what I really like is other interests.

2. Children are three-point hot

Now that the child has not settled down, he can't do a thing well from beginning to end, and he always does things at the level of three-point enthusiasm and half-bucket water. Parents let the children choose their own interests, and the children will choose the interests they like at will. When they see what other people like, the children will choose him as their own interest at this time, but after a few days, they will like other interests. Interest, children who come and go like this can't hold on to the interest for long, and they will always be three-pointed. Children choose their own interests but cannot persist without the supervision and guidance of their parents. In this way, even if the interests are what the children like, they cannot develop the ability to become themselves in the end, which is very detrimental to the growth of the children. .

Although it is said that children should choose their favorite interests by themselves, parents cannot choose to force children to learn their interests, but parents should also watch how children choose their favorite interests, and then persist. Instead of letting the children make their own choices, this will only lead to more and more enthusiasm for the children, and the children's persistence will become weaker and weaker, which will seriously affect the growth and development of the children. Therefore, parents cannot completely let go of their interests and let their children choose for themselves. This is a wrong approach. Parents should not blindly obey their children's wishes. Parents should use the correct method to let children choose their favorite interests and cultivate them.

Three: Cultivate children's interest

1. Correct understanding of interest

Parents should educate their children's awareness of interests so that children can correctly understand the true meaning of interests and have a correct attitude and understanding of interests. Persist in cultivating your own interests. Before letting children choose their own interests, it is more important for them to realize the meaning of interests. The child's cognition of interest is correct, so that the child can accurately find the interest he likes, and the child's interest can be accurately cultivated and developed.

2. Let the children choose their interests

Parents still cannot force their children to choose. The interests that parents think are good may not be what their children like. Therefore, parents should let their children choose their favorite interests, and then continue to cultivate and develop their favorite interests. Because if the child chooses by himself, he will have the motivation and inner drive to let the child develop and cultivate. The interest he chooses is the choice that the child follows in his heart, and he will not feel forced to accept it. Forced to accept, the persistence of interest will not last long, it will only arouse the child's aversion to the interest, and make the child no longer have a healthy psychology and mentality for the interest.

3. Guide the children

Guide the child's interests. When the child chooses the interest he likes, the parents should respond to the child's behavior and tell the child that since he has chosen the interest, he has the responsibility to be responsible for his interest. Let the children know that to be a child who has a beginning and an end, he must persist in cultivating his own interests, instead of treating his interests with enthusiasm. Parents' guidance is very important. Although children choose their favorite interests, whether they can cultivate them depends on whether their parents' guidance to their children is strong enough or not in place.

There are specializations in the art industry, and today's children still need to have an interest to cultivate their own abilities so that they can have an advantage. Hegel said that a deep and wide mind always extends the field of interest to countless things. Parents must know how to let their children have interests and cultivate their own interests, so that children can have a positive attitude and mentality towards life and develop better.

Parents nowadays advocate letting children choose their own interests, and don't force children to choose interests they don't like, which is conducive to their development. But you can't completely let the children choose their own interests, because children don't have a deep understanding of interests, and they can't look at interests well. Therefore, if parents want their children to choose their own interests, they must first let their children know and have a correct understanding of interests. Only in this way can we promote the development of children's interest.