Education is never happy, but it can let children receive education happily, hard work but not painful
The debate about happy education has been heard endlessly. Some people scoff at it, while others think it is the true knowledge of education.
The reason for such a big controversy is that those parents who misunderstand happy education, deceive themselves, enjoy laziness, and let their children do their own thing, show the appearance of so-called happy education in front of everyone.
They usually think that happy education is to maximize respect for children and let them be happy. thus:
Very obedient to the child, as long as he has a little fear of learning, the parents will accept him and give up.
Its name is to give children a happy childhood, but it does not impose restrictions at all, allowing children to play and cross boundaries wantonly with an ignorant heart.
Regardless of whether anything is meaningful or beneficial, as long as the child shows a little frustration, the parents tell them that they can let it go at any time.
Actually this means making the child happy without educating him.
This is not only a kind of lazy psychology of parents, but also an overestimation of children, as if they think that children's small heads can understand the rules of the world and truly understand what they want in the future.
People are born to seek pleasure, and if they are not limited by knowledge, culture and morality, they will be easily seduced by temptation and achieve nothing.
Even if parents don't want their child to achieve too much, but just want him to live a happy life, at least let the child have enough psychological quality and ability to adapt to society.
01The core of happy education is education
Happiness education was first proposed by British education scholar Herbert Spencer.
He believes: the purpose of education. It is to make children a happy person, and the means and methods of education should also be happy.
It can be understood from this sentence that happy education does not only make children happy, but also requires education. It's just that the traditional cramming education makes children feel painful, but parents should find ways to make the process of children's education happy.
Education is not only a kind of humanistic care, but also a necessary process for human beings to have life experience in order to grow into a society. What is the difference between a man and a beast if he is not educated?
Compared with traditional duck-feeding education, happy education requires parents to cultivate a child's positive attitude so that he can learn less painfully.
What parents must understand is that for happy education, one cannot give up education just because of happiness, let alone let children learn knowledge without any setbacks without any effort.
The correct way is to let children find fun in learning and stimulate their inner drive, knowing that their efforts will be rewarded, and then practice with great enthusiasm.
02Education is never happy, but it can make children educated happily
Although most celebrities and even successful people do not emphasize that they must be successful in life, at least one person who can survive in society follows the path of studying—advancement—graduation—and employment.
A more realistic situation is that parents can provide children with learning suggestions based on their talents and interests, rather than making decisions on their behalf.
Learning itself is a stressful thing. To allow the brain to accept new knowledge requires activities. And to make progress, knowledge must go from easy to difficult, from less to more, which is bound to go through an anti-human process.
Despite this, we can still let children be educated happily.
Help him find a more efficient learning method without forcing him to catch up with the learning progress of the so-called "other people's children". After all, every child has different potentials and conditions. No matter how well others perform, it is impossible for your own children to follow him to perform equally perfectly.
Cramming education is to teach children to memorize blindly, which will inevitably increase the burden on him in the process of climbing the ladder of learning, resulting in knowledge gaps or fragmentation.
In other words, the essence of happy education is to ignite a child's interest, teach him how to learn, and draw inferences from one instance, rather than pursuing external things such as rankings.
As Professor Zhong Yang of Fudan University said: The most important thing in education is to release students' learning ability.
This is what happy education refers to. Parents want their children to work hard without suffering.
03The difference between hard work and pain in happy education
Children need to work hard to acquire any knowledge.
Just like learning the sea without limit and working hard, it does not refer to mental pain, but physical hardship.
That is to say, although children feel tired, they gain a sense of accomplishment for learning new knowledge, which belongs to happy education. In fact, hard work and happiness are not two opposite sides.
Just like a child who loves dancing, he takes the initiative to practice repeatedly in the dance studio every day. Despite the sweat, he has become more and more proficient in grasping the movements, and gradually achieves graceful dancing postures.
Encourage your child when he encounters difficulties, and don't let him give up easily, and don't demand what rank he must reach; praise your child when he achieves achievements, and share the joy with him, which is what really makes a child happy and educated Way.
And those who compare their children's academic performance with other children all day long, and when the children fail to meet the expected scores, they blame, control, punish or even beat and scold them, which is an unhappy or even painful education.
Of course, in this case, children will not really absorb the content of education, but will suffer to complete the tasks of parents.
04 How to ignite children's interest in learning?
- Find out the reason for loss of interest and prescribe the right medicine
Children's lack of interest in learning may be affected by many factors. For example, improper learning methods lead to poor grades, which make children form the inherent impression that they are scumbags, and then form a vicious circle. Or they are often criticized by teachers and lose motivation to learn.
Listen to the real reasons why children don't like learning, and then actively solve them. For example, help children find scientific learning methods, or communicate with teachers to criticize children.
- Make good use of praise and encouragement
When a child encounters difficulties in learning, the accusations and criticisms of his parents will only make him lower and lower, down to the dust.
Be a parent who is good at discovering the bright spots of your child, teach him to recognize his own value, and then move forward with self-confidence in small successes again and again.
This can make children's learning emotions high, improve self-consciousness and enthusiasm.
For children, parents are the first authoritative evaluators. If they can get affirmation from their parents, they will be more willing to work hard and find the joy of learning in the process.
- Cultivate children's heroism complex
Tell your child more celebrity stories about self-achievement through hard work, so that he can be actively motivated by the role of role models.
Of course, for children, the most accessible role models around them are their parents. Even if he doesn't go to interest classes, as long as he sees his parents are constantly learning and growing, he will follow suit.
- Keep children learning fresh
Monotonous and boring learning content and modes are important reasons for children's interest to be gradually wiped out.
Adding fresh content to children is also an important means to make children happy in education.
For example, if a child likes Chinese, buy him various books, take him to the library, and try to post the articles he writes on the Internet to expand the child's learning horizon.