Education is never happy, but children can be educated happily, and it is not painful to work hard
The debate on happy education has been incessant, some people scoff at it, and some people think it is the true knowledge of education.
And the reason for such a big controversy is that those parents who misunderstand happy education, deceive themselves, enjoy being lazy, and let their children run wild, show the so-called happy education in front of everyone.
They usually think that happiness education is to maximize respect for children and make them happy. thus:
Very obedient to the child, as long as he has a slight fear of learning, the parents will accept him to give up.
The euphemistic name is to give children a happy childhood, but it does not impose any restrictions, so that children can play and cross boundaries with ignorance.
No matter whether it is meaningful or not, as long as the child shows a little frustration, the parent tells them to let it go at any time.
This actually means making the child happy, but not educating him.
This is not only a kind of laziness of parents, but also a kind of overestimation of children, as if they think that children's small heads can penetrate the rules of the world and truly understand what they want in the future.
Humans are born to be greedy for pleasure, and if they are not limited by knowledge, culture and morality, they are easily seduced by temptation, and thus achieve nothing.
Even if parents don't want their children to achieve too much success, but just want them to live a happy life, at least they should let their children have enough psychological quality and ability to adapt to the society.
01The core of happy education is education
Happy education was first proposed by the British educational scholar Herbert Spencer.
He believes that: the purpose of education. It is to make children a happy person, and the means and methods of education should also be happy.
It can be understood from this sentence that happy education is not only to make children happy, but also to educate them. It's just that traditional cramming education makes children feel pain, and parents should find ways to make the process of children's education happy.
Education is not only a kind of humanistic care, but also a necessary process for human beings to grow into a society with life experience. What is the difference between man and beast if he is not educated?
Compared with traditional cramming education, happy education requires parents to make children learn less painfully by cultivating a positive attitude in their children.
What parents must understand is that happy education should not give up education because of happiness, nor let children learn knowledge without any setbacks and without any effort.
The right way is to let children find fun in learning, and stimulate their inner drive, know that their efforts will pay off, and then practice with great enthusiasm.
02Education is never happy, but children can be educated happily
Although most celebrities and even successful people do not stress that life must be successful, at least a person who can survive in society follows the path of studying - entering a higher school - graduating - entering a job.
A more realistic situation is that parents can provide their children with learning suggestions based on their talents and interests, rather than making decisions for him.
Learning itself is a stressful thing. It requires activities for the brain to accept new knowledge. In order to make progress, knowledge must go from easy to difficult, from less to more, and it is bound to go through an anti-human process.
Nonetheless, we can keep our children educated happily.
Help him find a more efficient way to study without forcing him to catch up with the so-called "other people's children". After all, every child has different potentials and conditions, and no matter how well others perform, it is impossible for their own children to perform equally well with reference to him.
Cramming education is to teach children to memorize blindly, which will inevitably increase the burden on him in the process of climbing the ladder of learning, resulting in knowledge gaps or fragmentation.
That is to say, the essence of happy education is to ignite a child's interest, teach him how to learn, and draw inferences from one case, rather than pursuing external things such as ranking.
As Professor Zhong Yang of Fudan University said: The most important thing in education is to release students' learning ability.
Happy education refers to this meaning, parents want their children to work hard but not suffer.
03 The difference between hard work and pain in happy education
It takes hard work for a child to acquire any knowledge.
Just as learning is boundless and hard work, it does not refer to mental pain, but physical hardship.
That is to say, although the child feels tired, but the heart gains a sense of accomplishment for learning new knowledge, it belongs to happy education. In fact, hard work and happiness are not two opposites.
Just like a child who loves dancing, he voluntarily repeats the practice in the dance studio every day. Although he sweats, he becomes more and more proficient in his movements, and gradually achieves graceful dance postures.
Encourage the child when he encounters difficulties, and don't let him give up easily, and don't demand what ranking he must achieve; praise the child when he has achieved success, and share the joy with him, what really makes the child both happy and educated Way.
And those who compare their children's academic performance with other children all day long, and when the children fail to achieve the expected scores, blame, control, punish and even beat and scold them, which is unhappy or even painful education.
Of course, in this case, the children will not really absorb the content of the education, but will complete the tasks of the parents tormented.
04How to ignite children's interest in learning?
- Find out the reason for the disappearance of interest and prescribe the remedy
A child's lack of interest in learning may be affected by a variety of factors. For example, improper learning methods can lead to poor grades, and let children form the inherent impression that they are scumbags, thus forming a vicious circle. Or they are often criticized by teachers and lose their motivation to study.
Listen to the real reasons your child doesn't like learning, and actively address them. For example, help children find scientific ways of learning, or communicate with teachers how to criticize children.
- Make good use of praise and encouragement
When a child encounters difficulties in learning, the accusation and criticism of his parents will only make him lower and lower into the dust.
Be a parent who is good at discovering your child's bright spots, teach him to recognize his own value, and then move forward with self-confidence after small successes.
This can make children's learning mood high, improve self-consciousness and motivation.
For children, parents are the first authoritative evaluators. If they can get affirmation from their parents, they will be more willing to work hard and find the joy of learning in the process.
- Cultivate children's heroism complex
Tell your child more famous stories of self-fulfillment through hard work, and let him be motivated by the role of example.
Of course, for children, the most accessible role models around them are their parents. Even if he doesn't attend an interest class, as long as he sees his parents constantly learning and growing, he will follow suit.
- Keep your child's learning fresh
The monotonous learning content and mode are an important reason for the child's interest to be gradually wiped out.
Adding fresh content to children is also an important means to make children happy in education.
For example, if a child likes Chinese, buy him various books, take him to the library, and try to post the articles he wrote on the Internet to expand the child's learning horizon.