Dare to speak, stage fright is due to habitual self-doubt (2)

For many people with social anxiety, this sense of socially learned helplessness and avoidance tolerance has a long history. Psychological clinical research believes that it originated from 8-15 years old. However, from the subjective feelings of people with social anxiety, social anxiety seems to be part of their body, as if it was present in their memory from day one.

In the traditional Chinese social environment, the culture of shame will stimulate people to excessively pursue self-esteem, idealize self and honor, and produce a neurotic depression and self-denial.

The so-called shame culture is summed up by American anthropologist Ruth Benedict on the basis of distinguishing it from the Western "guilt culture". It means that the psychological feeling of shame has been discovered and sublimated into a kind of cultural accumulation, so many young people in contemporary China will feel depressed and uncomfortable, which is also the result of social and cultural influence.

In such a cultural environment, it is not surprising that social anxiety can be experienced. I believe everyone experiences social anxiety feelings to some extent. Unlike people with social anxiety, they do not live in the shadow of social anxiety for long.

In fact, even people with social anxiety do not necessarily behave well in the crowd. They just subconsciously magnify their negative impression of others, and in order to eliminate this impression, they have formed some social habits that keep others from a thousand miles away.

Therefore, if people with social anxiety want to overcome their inner thoughts, the first thing to do is to reduce self-focus and try to focus on things other than themselves. A reduction in self-focus would greatly increase the proportion of their real-world focus, breaking some of the prejudices that had always been in their minds.

It is well known that it is difficult to completely separate thinking and behavior, and how we think about a problem often determines how we respond to it.

In fact, social anxiety is far more complicated than people think. It doesn't have to be just social anxiety, it could be anxiety about anything that is uncertain, uncontrollable.

Once social anxiety thoughts have formed in your mind, it is difficult to break out of the vicious circle of social anxiety, so positive thinking is especially important. Focus on the positive words of luck, positivity, positivity, recognized, trusted, and give them positive feedback.

You dare not speak, stage fright is not because of inferiority, but because of habitual self-doubt.

So, changes in thinking patterns lead to changes in behavior patterns, and no one can do it right all the time. In fact, it is not easy to fully express his true thoughts and feelings.

Therefore, what social anxiety patients need to do is to stop self-doubt and make targeted adjustments from their inner thoughts.