Afraid to speak, stage fright is due to habitual self-doubt (2)

For many people with social anxiety, this feeling of socially learned helplessness and avoidance is long-standing. Psychological clinical research believes that it originated from the age of 8-15. However, judging from the subjective feelings of social anxiety patients, social anxiety seems to be part of their body, as if it existed in their memory from day one.

In the traditional Chinese social environment, shame culture will stimulate people to pursue excessive self-esteem, idealize self and honor, and produce a kind of neurotic depression and self-denial.

The so-called shame culture was summed up by American anthropologist Ruth Benedict on the basis of distinguishing it from the Western "guilt culture". It means that the psychological feeling of shame has been excavated and sublimated into a kind of cultural accumulation, so many young people in contemporary China will feel depressed and uncomfortable, which is also the result of social and cultural influence.

In such a cultural environment, it is not surprising that there will be feelings of social anxiety. I believe that everyone has experienced the feelings of social anxiety to some extent. Unlike social anxiety patients, they don't live under the shadow of social anxiety for a long time.

In fact, even people with social anxiety may not necessarily perform well in the crowd, and their words and deeds are very inappropriate, giving people a strong sense of strangeness. They just subconsciously magnify their negative impression of others, and in order to prevent this impression, they form some social habits that keep people away from others.

Therefore, if patients with social anxiety want to overcome their inner thoughts, the first thing to do is to reduce self-focus and try to focus on things other than themselves. The reduction in self-focus would greatly increase their proportion of attention to the real world, breaking some of the biases that have always been in their minds.

As we all know, thinking and behavior are difficult to completely separate, how we think about a problem often determines how we respond to it.

In fact, behind social anxiety is far more complicated than people think. It doesn't have to be just social anxiety, it could be any anxiety people have about things that are uncertain and out of their control.

Once the thoughts of social anxiety are formed in your mind, it is difficult to jump out of the vicious circle of social anxiety, so positive thinking is particularly important. Focus on positive words such as good luck, positive, positive, recognized, and trusted, and give them positive feedback.

You dare not speak, stage fright is not because of low self-esteem, but because of habitual self-doubt.

As a result, changes in thinking patterns lead to changes in behavior patterns, and no one can get it right forever. In fact, it is not easy to fully express his true thoughts and feelings.

Therefore, what patients with social anxiety need to do is to stop self-doubt and make targeted adjustments from their inner thoughts.