A 70-year-old man enters a nursing home: he only knows when he is old, it is really different to have boys and girls

Respecting the old and loving the young has always been a traditional Chinese virtue, but not all children can do this when they grow up, and some children even show disgust and impatience with their aging parents, which makes the elderly Chilled.

For this, Uncle Zhang has a deep understanding. Uncle Zhang's life can be described as full of ups and downs. His wife unfortunately passed away after giving birth to a pair of children. Since then, Uncle Zhang can only support the whole family by himself.

Influenced by the idea of ​​patriarchal preference in rural areas, Uncle Zhang has been strict with his daughter since he was a child, but he is fond of his son. When the family was at the most financially difficult time, Uncle Zhang asked his daughter with excellent grades to give up her studies and go out to work to provide her younger brother with education.

However, such efforts have not been commensurately rewarded. After his son completed his studies, he has been doing nothing. Instead of going out to find a job, he stayed at home and gnawed at his old age. As a result, Uncle Zhang's life became more and more difficult.

Later, his son planned to have a child, so he directly sent the 70-year-old Uncle Zhang to a nursing home on the grounds that the house was not enough at home. After hearing the news, her daughter immediately took Uncle Zhang back to her home and gave him meticulous care.

Thinking of what he did in the past and the attitude gap between his son and daughter now, Uncle Zhang burst into tears, and he couldn't help sighing: ''You don't know until you are old that having boys and girls is really different. ''

In fact, it is not just Uncle Zhang. In the cognition of many older generations, having a boy is better than having a girl. It is also influenced by this kind of thinking. Many women cannot be treated equally in the process of growing up. In fact, this cognition should be eliminated and eliminated.

Filial piety regardless of gender

The reason why many older generations develop gender bias is that they have an overly absolute perception of filial piety. In their view, only the children who accompany them can truly be filial to themselves.

Under the influence of this concept, the older generation will feel that the growth of a daughter will not only cost money, but also help her husband's family to make money after getting married, and be filial to the elders of her husband's family. Therefore, giving birth to a daughter is often seen as a ''losing business''.

But from the case of Uncle Zhang, it is not difficult to see that even if Uncle Zhang did not treat his daughter preferentially, she still took the initiative to take care of Uncle Zhang. It can be seen that true filial piety is not limited by gender, the key lies in the education of parents.

If parents want their children to be filial in the future, what should they pay attention to when educating their children?

Matters needing attention in raising filial children

· Develop a sense of responsibility

Filial piety is an obligation, and in order for children to take the initiative to undertake such an obligation, parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility. In the process of children's growth, parents should gradually guide their children to form the concept of doing things by themselves, so that they can experience a sense of responsibility, and then gradually cultivate a sense of responsibility.

· Avoid excessive petting

With the continuous improvement of people's material living standards, more and more parents are prone to excessively spoiling their children. Under this kind of excessive favor, children will have a strong sense of dependence on their parents, and it is difficult to achieve personality independence.

Nowadays, the reason why many children are gnawing on old age is precisely because they are too dependent on their parents. Therefore, parents should avoid pampering their children too much, and parents of second-child families should also ensure that both children are treated equally, so that children can gradually get rid of their dependence on their parents and take the initiative to take up the responsibility of supporting their parents after they achieve financial independence.

·Set a good example

We all know that parents are their children's first mentors, and many of their children's behavioral norms are derived from their parents' every move. Therefore, if parents want their children to be filial to themselves in the future, they should also be filial to their elders and set a good example for their children.